Me 28f and my fiance 30m have been together for 6 years and have twins aged 3 together. He proposed a month ago. A couple of weeks ago I spotted several private browsing apps in his phone when I was changing the music in the car, DuckDuckGo etc. When I questioned him, he admitted he has a full blown ‘porn addiction’ hence the private vpn browsers. I then found out that he browses or uses porn several times a day..at work. He’s a tradesmen and often works late hours too. He also admitted he sometimes does It before he starts the actual job and after (so in a building site porter-loo or I hate to say it but a customers house). Even watches it sometimes whilst he drives to work. And I’m at home caring for our twins waiting for him to walk through the door for some support. He’s purposely been late home and leaves earlier in the morning. Works 6 days a week and then plays sport on Sunday so it can be quite lonely for me at times and now that I know he’s been delaying his arrival home I’m quite cross. After seeing the time stamped evidence (Google tracks app activity) I have no idea how he gets any work done in all honesty. FYI I’m not presuming any of the above, he’s admitted to all of this. We have a very affectionate relationship and we are intimate minimum twice a week, he’s a bit lacklustre though and I always felt it was a chore for him but I put it down to being tired from work? He also said he can never help with nursery drop offs or pick ups as he’s got to be at work for a certain time although I think if he quit watching porn before work he could help (I work three days a week). It very much feels like he’s dodging family responsibilities. On the emotional side of things, I’m in complete shock as he always retained he never watched it. I’m not stupid and I always suspected he browsed from time to time but I would never imagine it to be this excessive. I also believed he wasn’t really one to watch because how on earth would he find the time? Obviously now I know, he does it at work. I know there’s always mixed opinions, I personally don’t really like the idea of it and excessive use has always been a boundary of mine and I told him this very early days of the relationship after he referenced his ex’s dislike for porn. Hence why he kept it from me but equally, I feel a bit manipulated that he asked me to marry him knowing my feelings on this topic. We’ve had some issues (mostly surrounding odd things in his phone, he accidentally reposted a porn clip on Twitter which obviously ended up on my feed). Swears blind he didn’t know how that happened and he swore on the children he would never watch anything like that. A promo text from an escort (claims it was a girl he used to know years back who still has his number…). Oh and a picture of a prostitute performing oral sex on him in front of all his friends (weird imo), photo was from a decade ago and was recently sent into the boys WhatsApp group, he claims he accidentally saved it to his camera roll. Just several annoyances over the years. Anyway, I’m completely miserable. So many lies over the years about so many things. Trust has gone and I’m worried the relationship will always be fractured. He seems remorseful but for me I just feel so betrayed and disappointed. I was really happy before this, he was my best friend and my biggest comfort. Fair enough lots of people indulge in porn but this type of use all hours of the workday doesn’t sit well with me. Any advice or similar experience would be appreciated. TIA