So basically we had a family party on Saturday at my house. We haven't had a family party since the summer, it was such a fantastic night we loved seeing everyone ect, we were a super close family. Sunday morning my auntie wrote in the group chat that she had lost £350 from the zipped up part of her bag (my uncle had worked that day and came to my house a little later on) nothing else is missing apart from the bundle of money. Logically she was asked if she lost it in the taxi on the way home but she got an uber so didn't need to go in her bag on the way home (she wasn't drunk but we all had had a drink) now this is the part is tricky and what I feel most awful about. 9 years ago my other auntie's husband stole a mobile phone from me and sold it which is how I know he did it because the person who brought it messaged me through social media asking for my apple ID, she gave me his full name and address. When he stole this phone, me and my husband we're going through a really hard time. Our little girl was diagnosed with a terminal illness and we were lending them money. My husband was absolutely fuming and me said he isn't welcome in our home ever again and we never invited him or my auntie to our house in the 9 years. My nan and most of my family over the years have told us we're dramatic and are breaking our family up ect ect. After around 4/5 years I started inviting my auntie but not her husband to things as I felt pressure from my family but my husband hated it but understood. Now last christmas we were having everyone to us for boxing day and my family were like are you inviting & and and I said I'm inviting & but not and I was told we was selfish for not inviting them at christmas so i asked my husband if & and * could come round he said no so we had a big massive row in the end he allowed me to invite them as we were getting grief from family, they didn't come that christmas anyway. Fine!
Every time we have a party my family nag us about inviting them so we've just given in and invited them every party we've had, the thieving uncle has never turned up until Saturday, he hadn't stepped foot into my home in nine years and now money has gone missing. Every member of my family was in the garden for an hour on Saturday with all bags in my living room and I think you can guess who was alone in my living room. My family also think it was him but we dont have any proof and now my auntie who had the money stolen said she can trust any of us because she has no proof which is fair enough but I'm so angry because my family and partly me (after around 8 years) gave my husband so much shit about not inviting him to our house. We had so many rows over this and for what. My husband has been proven right he can't be trusted and is a scum bag. I feel awful that money was stolen at my house and I feel awful my auntie us questioning my morals, I wouldn't ever steal off anyone let alone family ffs!
What can we do as a family, the thieve will never admit it and how can we not invite him again when we have no proof. My husband has said to me to never ever ask him again if * can come round because the answer is and will always be now a NO and I totally understand and agree. I'm absolutely gutted for my auntie and my family.
I'm so sorry this is a long winded post.
Thanks