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Should I leave my job?

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Bronfenbrennere · 03/11/2024 23:46

This is more of a ‘what would you do?’

I have worked extremely hard over the past 13 years, working in the care sector and spending 9 years in university. I have always wanted to teach my interest area in a further education college and my long term goal is to lecture in a university.

Last year I got a job working in a college teaching social care. I wasn’t on full time hours in the college, nor was I given a contract where I was paid for summer holidays. Due to this, I decided to remain working part-time in the social care setting as it fit around my teaching hours and I needed the security of a job to fall back on if my contract was not renewed. It was an extremely hectic year and I would estimate that I spent every term time weekend preparing PowerPoints, lesson plans etc. for the week ahead.

This year I am on a much better contract with full hours, paid holidays etc. My dilemma is this - I work 9-2.30 in the college and then 3.00-6.00 in the care setting which is located next to the college. I cover staff breaks so there isn’t much responsibility on my shoulders. While the part-time work is easy, convenient and enjoyable, I still spend a portion of my weekend time preparing classes for my teaching job and I feel overwhelmed. I do not get home until 7 each weekday evening.

If you were in my position, would you:

A. Continue to work both jobs as the extra money will be useful when DD goes to university in 3 years (I already have savings set aside for this), needs a car etc. I work a small number of hours so it equates to about €150 per week extra income.

B. Opt for a better work life balance and leave the part-time job. It would mean I am home from work at 3.00 each day and I will get to see DD more. If I have prep work to do I can spend an hour at home in the evening and have weekends to relax, spending time with DD and my partner who lives an hour and a half away.

For background, I am a single parent to a teenage daughter and I have savings so I would not struggle financially if I give up the part-time job. I am finding it so difficult to make a decision and it has been playing on my mind all day. My head is telling me to leave the part-time job but I really struggle with change and I hate the feeling of regret. I really need an outsiders perspective, if you don’t mind

OP posts:
Izzy24 · 04/11/2024 05:47

Definitely leave your job.

I don’t think that you will regret leaving it for a moment when you are feeling less tired, have more time to spend with your daughter and actually get to catch your breath now and then.

Your positivity, determination and strength are outstanding and I hope you recognise this about yourself.

Please choose option B. It will be a change, but all progression must embrace change I think. You’ve worked so hard for this. Good luck!

Workiskilligme · 04/11/2024 06:27

Does it have to be all or nothing? Could they put you on a bank contract, so that you could pick up hours if you needed to?

I would definitely leave if money wasn't an issue, but nice to keep your hand in.

3luckystars · 04/11/2024 08:46

Go with your instincts and leave the part time job and do what your body is telling you to do. Well done and good luck x

Bronfenbrennere · 05/11/2024 20:17

Thank you everyone. Sometimes you just need an outside perspective. I handed in my registration today

OP posts:
Izzy24 · 05/11/2024 22:30

Bronfenbrennere · 05/11/2024 20:17

Thank you everyone. Sometimes you just need an outside perspective. I handed in my registration today

Great news! Best wishes for your future OP.

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