To feel anxious about trip away without kids!!

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It’s my 40th in Jan and DH and I are going abroad for 4 nights without the kids!! I’m looking forward to it but I’m also feeling guilty as never left them for that long. They are being looked after my lovely grandparents. The thing I’m worried about is should anything happen to us eg plane crash they will be orphans!! Not sure why it is bothering me so much but it is!!!!
youngest is 6 , then 8 and eldest 12 so maybe their ages is making me feel more guilty!!

You know you are being unreasonable! And also not being rational.

The chances of an accident are very, very low. But let's be honest - even if you did have one, they are being looked after the people who would love them the most.

Go away. Have a lovely time.

I had exactly the same feelings when we went abroad for first (and only) time without kids. We had a great time away but it was, to be honest,
really, really nice to get home.

I think I worry more about plane crashes when we’re all on the plane though - the thought of the DC dying is worse than us dying and them being orphaned I think?! (Also statistically VERY unlikely either way…)

Why do their ages make you feel guilty? They are all old enough to understand where you are and how long until you'll be back. If they were toddlers it would be awful but at that age they will probably find it exciting.

I was exactly the same leaving my children for a 3 night abroad stay. We had a good time but I’ll be honest and say it played on my mind while we were there. My daughter cried so much when we left but was absolutely fine once we had gone.

I think they are just normal parent worries. I’d just acknowledge the anxiety is there but enjoy the time with your partner.