Head lice. He's accusing my DM of bringing them here.

[NitsAreUs]

I was doing my DD's hair after a bath and came across a nit. I point it out to her dad and say I'll pick up a treatment from the chemist tomorrow. No big issue.

He then comes out with "ah that'll be from your mum then"

Excuse me?

My DM came to stay last weekend, but he's conveniently skipping past the fact his other three children are here every week too.

I'm pretty pissed off that he's immediately jumped to accusing my mum of bringing lice into the house, when on the balance of probability it's much more likely to come from children.

There was no mention of my mum having an itchy head or any reason to believe she had lice.

I asked him why he thinks that and he said simply because she was here 🤨

AIBU to think he's out of line? Would you be offended?

Edited to add - I don't even think nits are a big deal personally, for me it's about how he's leapt straight into blaming and pinned it on my mum.

Kids pass it on, not adults. I had it as a kid and caught it from my kids when they were younger. Funnily enough I haven't had it since as I don't touch heads with my friends.

Adults definitely pass them on too!! What a stupid statement . Kids yes maybe more likely because they get close but adults definitely pass them on too!!!

DSC were here yesterday, when he arrived home with them he whispered to DD not to mention having nits! Ridiculous. So he still thinks they came from my DM. I've sent their mum a quick message to let her know we've had them and to check their hair.

She has had one dose of Hedrin left over night and will repeat at the 7 day mark to clear any newly hatched ones.

Thanks for the tip about the conditioner. Much cheaper than the £17 I paid for the treatment!

So now hes whispering to your DD to keep secrets from her siblings? For what reason? Would they be mean to her, call her names for having nits? Or maybe he was worried one of them would admit they've had them or that they're being spread around school making him wrong. I really cant believe he just went straight to blaming your mum, id be annoyed too! He sounds awful OP, honestly id be out of there asap.

I suspect he wouldn't want DSC to go back and tell their mum that she/we have had nits 🤦🏼‍♀️

Ridiculous really as they've almost certainly had them before, the eldest is in secondary. I don't know any kids who haven't had nits atleast once 😐

Yeh thats absolutely ridiculous. Shes just a child, its not her fault. Hes obviously embarrassed about something so minor that happens to most kids, cant even comprehend why he had kids in the first place tbh if this little thing would bother him. Trying to blame your mum is low, but making DD keep it a secret is just childish and pathetic. You treat them, you move on. No need to blame anyone especially your poor mum who's done nothing wrong. He obviously doesnt like her and this would make me question his overall behaviour and how he treats people.

We’ve all had nits so many times we’ve lost count 😫 I never had them as a child. Part and parcel of life IMO and your DH is a prick

What a knob head he is. Early primary is prime time for kids to get nits as they get up close to each other. It's also ridiculous for him to not tell his ex, as forewarned is forearmed and she can be on the lookout for them on her own DCs. He's also misinformed about clean hair. Nits don't care whether hair is clean or dirty.

He doesn’t really think they came from your mum, he just wants to use it to cause upset because he doesn’t like her.

He sounds pathetic to be honest. Obviously they came from his kids.