To not want to car share

[LiterallyMe]

So basically I’m away on my own with my two kids visiting family. My cousin is also visiting family and we live in the same home town. I’ve been asked if I can give him a lift back home when I leave which is a 5 and half hour trip. AIBU to not want to do this? He managed to get here on his own so should find his own way back home. I haven’t spoken to him in over 20 years so we aren’t exactly close and I don’t really know how to say that I don’t want to give him a lift.

That s not car sharing !

If you have space and are feeling generous, give him a list to the nearest train station!

5 and a half hours! I'd say No. That's too long to be in a small space with someone.

Is he offering money for fuel?

I would definitely do this for family.

Just say you can’t offer a lift but you are happy (if you are) to give him a lift to the station.

You may not be asked for an explanation, but if you are just say you need the space to think, and would find another adult presence distracting.

I think the key to being comfortable with saying no is to accept it might annoy other people, but that simply isn’t your problem.

It’s family yes I would do that . Maybe time to connect .

I'd make up a friend or stop that you're visiting on the way home.

Tbh 5.5hrs in a car with 2 kids I would actually plan a few fun stops along the way!

Its one of those situations where you look mean if you say no, given you have space and going the same direction. I’d end up agreeing but then i’m a chatterbox and can make small talk with anyone. But if you want to say no without family thinking you're unreasonable then maybe make up a stop at an imaginary friends on way back so sadly you can’t offer a lift

Smashing he can sing along to the Disney CD with you all. Or he can cadge a lift to the nearest station..

I haven’t been offered any money no. Just basically asked for a lift, I don’t even know where he lives in the city. I’ve said I have no space for luggage. Which is true as boot is full with my bags and my son’s pushchair.

This is a one-off for family, not a regular thing. Offer to drop them at a place convenient to you in your mutual city and they can bus/train home the last bit.

If it's family, yes I would.

If you genuinely can’t fit his luggage it’s surely a no go.

I’ve been burnt by this kind of thing before so I wouldn’t. I was visiting a friend in another city and mentioned it to another friend of mine who said she had family there and could she have a lift the same weekend. I drove her there and back. No offer of fuel, no offer of paying any of the tolls either direction. Like a free bloody taxi service. Never ever again