Long story short, but I am trying to figure out am I the crazy one for having such an expectations?
My sister came to visit me on another continent overseas, which I have paid for plane ticket and hosting her for a whole month. She is not contributing towards anything, which is fine with me. My only ask was that she helps me and my husband in the house for example when she sees the dishwasher is full, yo can empty it, or when you see the bin is full to take it out in the trash.
I was having a conversation with my sis, bear in mind she is 27y female. I was trying to have a convo about what she wants in life etc, what she is looking for in a partner. We came to this convo as she was saying how she cannot find a guy to date. Anyways, I tried to provide some pros and cons about some guy and she got mad at me saying some harsh things. To make things even worse, she went to my mother ( which I have fall out with and father) and told her I am making her work in my house, how dare am I as she came in my house to be on a holiday not to do any work.
My mother and father are the biggest narcissi in the world. My mother complete went off track and started to saying to me I am a terrible person, she doesnt know how my husband is keeping up with me, he will leave me soon. I am not smart enough to find a job as I recently went through redundancy. She told me i have no friends, I am crazy etc.
Yes, it is true that I was not able nor I knew how to make friends when I was younger as they never allowed me to hangout with any friends. I went through all of my childhood like a loner. But I got away from them when I was 19 and went to complete different country, went to therapy, got a good education, job, got married. I am not struggling in life now, expect when they come into my life.
I was always bearing with their stupid terrible behaviour for the sake of keeping a peace. They have abused me and my sister when we were kids. She used to drink, beat us, calling us with awful names. Then she stopped and my father started doing the same to us. Cheated with several women, was giving them money and told me and my sister when we found out to leave him alone to live his life. We told our mother, she never wanted to leave him, she is like his puppy and he is controlling her.
Anyways, I decided they are so toxic and poisonous, that Ijust told me I am not going to deal with their crap anymore. I blocked them and they are both dead to me.
Am I asking too much for asking when someone is visiting you for a whole month in your house to help to empty the dishwasher, take out the trash and things like this?