I'm trying to prevent an argument today.
My in laws can be quite opinionated and also pretty much don't recognise how hard I work with 2 kids and my husband never being home because of his work.
They never acknowledge that it must be hard for me to cope completely alone most of the time and make unhelpful comments frequently.
I had to quit my job a few months ago because I had burn out. My job was 100 percent home based, aside from occasional travel abroad for a few nights. I have two young kids who are very clingy and it was hard for me. In laws always commented how I need to ' quit job ' ' find something else ' as it's ' not appropriate '. It annoyed me and my husband that they made these comments. I did quit but I really just needed to stay out of work for a while. MIL did comment that I should just ' find a part time job and ' not working isn't good either '. Which also pissed me off. I just don't need her judgements. Part time jobs are hard to come by in my industry and will basically be less money, with the same responsibilities anyway. It's not worth it.
Now I have a new job, which requires some time in the office every week. I know they'll say ' how are you going to do it, with the kids ? ' and ' is this really appropriate ? '.. what I really want to say is ' your son needs to pull his finger out and carry his weight more and that's how '. But I know this will also cause an issue. So I'm not sure how to shut them down, in a polite way that won't cause friction? Can you help ? I find it difficult.