To be really annoyed with my mil & sil?

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They came to visit today along with my younger sil who is just 16.
Anyway younger sil was looking online for prom dresses and everytime she saw one her mil or sil would say something "oh no not with your thunder thighs" or "You need a long dress to cover you're stubby legs up"

Then she saw a beautiful one and was told (because it had some netting) "you are 16 not 6 grow up"

Then the thing that really upset me was mention of a dress my older sil had worn and my MIl said "yes but you couldn't get away with wearing it you have to have a decent figure for a dress like that!!!"

Now this girl is a happy confident beautiful girl who is a size 12 I did say to my sil in a jokey way to ignore them as they were jealous .

But I just can not understand why they wanted to crush her like this

Neither can I?

Keep her confidence bolstered up blinking and take the other two to one side and slap them - hard.

Wow, it sounds like they have serious issues!

Yep, sounds like they are jealous to me.

I hate it when people are like that. I always have to bite my tongue (usually fail and end up doing something rude and blowing the whole thing out of proportion.

yanbu at all.

Knock their heads together.

Silly moos.

Oh my God.

Do they want her to have an eating disorder, or just low self esteem?

My mum once said that to me. I've always remembered it and never forgiven her. I have low confidence in myself. That's a surprise!

She needs a good talking to. Give me her number and I'll be happy to have a word. I wish someone had told my mother to shut up.

I just think they have ishhhhhoooooooossss

she spends most weekends here already and today I got a little glimpse why

When someone says things like this to you it damages your self esteem. I'm not surprised she wants to get away from it, you're doing a lovely thing for her, she'll always be grateful for this.

Can you not take her shopping for her prom dress as you seem to have a better idea of what will suit her.

I'm sure that my confidence isn't that great because my dad kept putting me down. He got 99% on a pure math exam and then complained he didn't do as well as he could have.

can we help her find the most stunning prom dress?

Let her get dressed and made up at your house on the day.

Thankyou everyone she will not be allowed to get ready at my house that day as although mil has constantly pulled her to pieces she will want her to leave from her house for all the glory and look at me - plus she is very close to her Dad and he will probably want to see her leave.

We are giving her some money toward her dress around 60.00 as a belated 16th bday present she really wants this one
www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10001_60238_483153_-100
and has been excited about it for a couple of weeks but when she showed it her mum today she just turned her nose up

She is such a lovely girl and has done a lot of nice stuff for me this past year so it does make me really
I think I will take her for her nails or somehing doing the day before the prom .

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