DH invited my family over but our house is a tip

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Am currently recovering from abdominal surgery this week and can't do much. DH has had to work and look after DC. However, he decided to invite my family over tomorrow. Our house is a tip, and I said that this is fine so long as he cleans before they come but if not, then he should uninvited them. He is now pissed off and says that I should do get in touch with them and tell them they aren't welcome. But I didn't invite them in the first place.

Yes, there is obviously a back story. My dad is quite judgy and will make comments. Dh doesn't think having a clean house when guests come is important but he also comes from a family of hoarders who never had anyone over. Am tired, sore and pissed off.

Actually could this be the moment to get your husband to understand why you don't want a relationship with your parents.

Your father comes over, is rude about your house and upsets you.

Then your husband Actually gets it

He needs to uninvite them

This along with firm words to your DH. How inconsiderate

Yes.
However, I quite like a man who's a neat freak.
Daddy should clean!
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You didn't invite them, you don't get on with them, and your DH is making it your responsibility to tidy or cancel?
Are you well enough to go out? Find a cafe and remove yourself from the situation until their visit is over?

If your dad were judgy, surely it would be about your OH since you're out of action at the moment.

He should be cleaning the place top to bottom and looking after you properly. Tell him he has to do this before bed tonight or tell them not to come.

Anyone who truly loves and cares for you wouldn’t care about the mess

I'm sure your husband invited them with best of intentions. Sad that your parents judge your house. You have had major surgery and young kids, they should be giving you a break
Wishing u a good recovery

Do nothing... when the judgy people arrive hobble downstairs and plonk self on sofa looking in agony. Ramp up your pain play , dont offer to do anything and say you're incapacitated with post surgery pain and have been relying on dh to hold the fort..... then fuck off back to bed... let him take it from there

My dad is ok but he is also stuck in his ways doesnt do social niceties. Like he wouldnt keep things to himself and will say outright 'oh wow is your house a tip'. Regardless, I just don't need visitors right now...