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Child disowned me

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Fireflower201 · 02/11/2024 13:58

My 20 year old has completely disowned me and I’m really struggling with it, there are so many layers to it but she has robbed from me, family and friends, lied manipulated and lots of other stuff whilst growing up, she has committed fraud in my name, refuses to acknowledge any issue with this, and almost made me feel I was making a big issue about it, she has tried to fight me & another family member when I went to check on her cause she refused to come home, that was my final straw, at this point as she’s a adult shall I just walk away forever? I can’t believe all of the hurt shes caused, she won’t get medical help she smokes weed, she is very defiant, she is angry about life and the bad choice I made choosing her father 20 years ago too if that helps, yet wants nothing to do with either of us and wants to instead live with friends

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SensibleSigma · 02/11/2024 16:16

No, OP, sorry! The trend is not what’s hurting your family. Your DD’s behaviour is. Her cutting you off is just one more in a long line.

Just take the space to breathe. Don’t think of it as permanent- she has decided she doesn’t want to see you at the moment. Give her space. You may enjoy it! So may she! Then rebuild a relationship on equal terms.

Some people can’t bear to be faced with their ow bad behaviour- it shakes them and they lash out. It’s easier for her right now to avoid seeing you and thinking about what she’s done. Tell her you love her and want nothing but the best for her, and will give her the space she needs until she feels differently.

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