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Visit to smokers flat

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DemocracyR · 02/11/2024 02:56

I’ve been ill for a few weeks with a horrendous cough. I’ve wfh due to poor sleep, attacks of coughing throughout the day and genuinely feeling horrendous. Vomiting from how extreme the coughing is. This was a follow on from catching something similar a few weeks before. It’s been rough.

Anyway, today is the first day I’ve felt like I’m over the worst of it, a bit more human. Even yesterday I felt I couldn’t go out for my partner’s birthday and spent the night sleeping on the sofa.

Now he’s offended that because I’m much better I don’t want to go and spend the night at his mum’s for his birthday. She’s a smoker.

I’ve had a message this evening suggesting any issues would be avoided by asking mother and brother to vacate the flat to smoke (brother also a smoker) and that I’m being unreasonable by not wanting to go. As though smoke leaves after the cigarette is extinguished.

AIBUto think the day after finally feeling better it’s wrong to expect me to spend the night in a smoker’s flat?

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PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 02/11/2024 03:02

Even without recovering from a horrendous cough I wouldn’t want to stay in a flat/ house/ tent/ caravan anything where someone smoked it stinks and will trigger your coughing fits while they are still recovering. Your “partner “ doesn’t sound very caring

DemocracyR · 02/11/2024 03:13

He’s usually very caring. He’s taking this as me ‘not wanting to celebrate {his} birthday’ with his family and I’m really angry. He’s made it about him and showing no concern for my health. I’ve not been able to commit to my work contract on days in the office I’ve been struggling so much. Yesterday I was coughing so hard as I put on my makeup I threw up getting ready…

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