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AIBU?

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Is my overthinking unreasonable?

9 replies

sillyceiling · 01/11/2024 20:35

Context: My pregnancy has recently turned higher risk and I’m feeling a bit anxious about it all. They are bringing baby earlier and it’s looking like they will call next week to say when. I just want baby here now, it’s been a rollercoaster to get to this point and baby is so wanted and long awaited after previous loss. If I seem irrational I know this is the reason for it, I just want to keep my baby safe and will relax more when they are in my arms.

Earlier this year we bought a doer-upper which will hopefully be our forever home. We’ve had the kitchen decorated today and they’ve replastered a section and have been drilling in the ceiling to fit the lights. I’d cleaned the kitchen after they have left and was cooking dinner on the hob, opened the extractor fan above the hob and down fell a load of dust/grit presumably either plaster or from where they’ve been drilling. I only noticed this after we’d eaten but it was near where the pans were. I can’t say for sure if it had gone in but also think it would’ve just disintegrated into the sauce so perhaps wouldn’t notice.

I’m not at all bothered about my own health here or even DH and DC but worried about the fact that I’ve most likely eaten some of the crap that’s come through the fan. I can’t get it out of my head that if any of the decorating materials or plaster is toxic, that it could travel to baby through the placenta and harm them.

As I’m typing it out I can see it probably sounds like I’ve gone mad, but it’s just this specific worry. I’m openly discussing the fact I feel more anxious lately with my midwife and seeking support in that way.

Does it sound like something to worry about or not? Happy for the onslaught of people telling me YABU but don’t need advice for next steps as I am actively seeking support, just having a wobble tonight and wanted to write it down.

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xyz111 · 01/11/2024 20:41

I think if it had gone in the pan, you might have tasted it/ felt a crunch? What's done is done, I'm sure you'll be fine.

sillyceiling · 01/11/2024 20:42

xyz111 · 01/11/2024 20:41

I think if it had gone in the pan, you might have tasted it/ felt a crunch? What's done is done, I'm sure you'll be fine.

Some of it was more of a fine dust. The sauce was textured and had lots of seasoning so wouldn’t have noticed anything odd I don’t think. The crazy thing is if this was anyone else’s post I would just point out logic, that it will simply pass through. I can’t see that for myself though and just don’t want it getting to baby

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sillyceiling · 01/11/2024 20:47

I also think hormones can’t be helping! But I never worried about things like this previously so it’s weird to

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sillyceiling · 01/11/2024 21:03

Anyone else got any thoughts?

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MaiAamWaliHun · 01/11/2024 21:26

OP I am as close to 100% sure it will be ok as I can be. You are understandably anxious and on alert given the high-risk status. Do what you can to distract yourself from the intrusive thoughts and get through them-- for me watching something on netflix or listening to a podcast is the best way when I get anxious. And sleeping. Sending good vibes your way x

sillyceiling · 01/11/2024 21:49

MaiAamWaliHun · 01/11/2024 21:26

OP I am as close to 100% sure it will be ok as I can be. You are understandably anxious and on alert given the high-risk status. Do what you can to distract yourself from the intrusive thoughts and get through them-- for me watching something on netflix or listening to a podcast is the best way when I get anxious. And sleeping. Sending good vibes your way x

Thank you this is so kind. I will do just that x

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MaterCogitaVera · 01/11/2024 22:41

I’m so sorry that you’re having such a trying time of it. Totally understandable that you’re worried. But I agree with a previous poster, I’m as close as possible to 100% certain that you’ve not taken in anything that will harm you or baby. Building dust isn’t likely to be toxic, especially in the kinds of minute amounts you’re talking about. I really wouldn’t give it another moment’s thought. Do something relaxing and calming, and focus on your excitement about meeting your new family member! I hope baby makes an appearance soon.

verycloakanddaggers · 01/11/2024 22:47

sillyceiling · 01/11/2024 20:47

I also think hormones can’t be helping! But I never worried about things like this previously so it’s weird to

Give yourself a break for worrying. It's natural in your situation and it doesn't make you any less of a person than you were before you worried. The worry will hopefully recede again after the baby is here.

Eenameenadeeka · 02/11/2024 07:32

I understand because I have anxiety as well but I am sure you are just worrying and everything will be okay

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