Hello all,
Posting here for traffic and also, I'd love to hear from a wide range of posters from all stages of life. Sorry it's a bit long!
We have two wonderful children conceived via IVF. We were so lucky for things to work out relatively straightforwardly once we got going. We thought that having one more child, with our remaining embryos would be lovely. Financially, possibly a stretch but manageable - same emotionally and physically.
We went back - a c-section niche was found, cue 1k test to check for any chronic infeftion. More testing for all kinds of issues, hundreds down. A cancelled cycle, again hundreds. Finally got to transfer 2.1k down and it worked, but I miscarried at 7 weeks. After I miscarried I went for a scan 5 weeks later as I was still bleeding, retained products found. Had to take misprostol - finally a negative pregnancy test two months after. I went back for another transfer with one of our two remaining embryos, I was found to have high gardnerella possibly from all the prolonged bleeding. Took antibiotics, they didn't work, I've now been prescribed more.
I fear that I'll regret not persevering for this third child, a family I'd always imagined, but this is expensive and taxing. I have some savings and I would love an abdominoplasty as polyhydramnios left me with severe diastasis recti. It feels selfish to spend the money on this. I think of the two wonderful children I have and I'm in many ways at my limit. Would love to use the resources we have to give them more. DH just not keen at all but would never say no to me. Preserving my marriage is important to me.
Everything says stop right? Or not? My heart says keep going, especially as we have spare embryos but I think logic should win.
Would really appreciate people's thoughts.