Alarming dynamic between ex and ex MIL

[ellie09]

Hi all

I've been separated with my ex husband for 5 years or so

It's been a Rocky co parenting relation ship, where I have had to call the police to file a report on blackmailing etc. His dad was emotionally and psychologically abusive and physically towards the end (although less so)

The past 5 years he has been living with his mum who I also have an up and down relationship with, but recently we have been getting on really well

I was due to pick up DS from their house and I walked in on an argument. Ex husband tells me once ex MIL leaves the room with DS that he is going to "break her neck and watch her as she slowly dies" and that if he doesn't get his house soon, this will happen

Obviously, due to the past history, I laughed it off, and he looked at me and said "I'm serious"

How would you take this?

I made an excuse this week to have DS at home to let things cool down, but the level of aggression talked about leaves me feeling on edge

I would be ringing the police if I were you.

Well I’d ring the police, he has a degree of form, and you will feel pretty awful if you don’t.

Aside from the threat, which surely is just words, is he trying to kick her out of the house? Has it been left to them jointly and he’s pressuring her to sell?

I’d report this as well as it sounds like intimidation even if he does not really plan to murder his own mother - having told someone beforehand.

I’d report him if he has a history of
violence and I threatening to kill his mother. DV includes family and is extremely dangerous.

Please report him to the police

Report it to the police why do you need to ask as you know what he’s capable of

How old is DS? Did he hear the threats ? Has he said anything about the vibe at Ex and his Gran's?

Sorry, just to add, yes, report to Police

I'd be extremely worried and would report what he said to police. He sounds unstable and his poor mother could be in very real danger.

Yes report. If anything happens to MIL or she has to call them at some point, there will already be a log so it would help her and possibly you long term if he turns on you again and there is an identifiable pattern.

I don't understand the comment about obviously because of past history you laughed it off.

Surely because of the past history you would be aghast!