For asking him to delete out sex messages?

[BeAzureNewt]

I have been sexting with this guy for a couple of days and he is going abroad today.last time he was abroad he left the phone to his brother cause he uses for work as well.
I don't want anyone seeing those messages and I want to ask him to delete our sexts but I don't want to offend him or smth ,what can be an inoffensive way of asking him ?
This is giving me a bit of anxiety

This sounds like something he would say to avoid feeling obliged to message you while he’s away. Unless there are photographs that you’re worried about being shared then I’d probably just bin him and not worry about the sexts - no one will be able to do anything with your texts.

If you have sent photos - send a message saying ‘hi, I feel pretty uncomfortable about the photos I’ve sent being on a shared work phone - please could you delete them’

then bin him…

Those pics will 100% have been screenshotted. Make sure he has cleared those pics off his phone, too

Right. If he is even going away

@DeliciousApples
He has invited me over to his house several times so I didn't worry about him being married ,we talk on the phone when he is at home .
Unless it's not his home and sb else home which would be so calculated and I guess there are ppl like that.

Just to clarify he didn't tell me he is leaving his phone behind or anything I base this on what he said once in the past ,this time he didn't say anything.
When I called earlier to ask to delete I also asked if he is leaving his phone behind and he said no he won't

@Swivelhead
You can't screenshot them in view once the only way to have them is to take a picture from another phone.

I think you need to be asking yourself why you can trust a man enough to send him photos of you naked, but then got anxious about saying 'Hiya, can you delete those photos?' If you were scared of 'offending' him over some deleted messages, what were you doing sending him nudes?

Unlike a lot of Mumsnetters I can absolutely see the appeal of sexting and if I had a boyfriend I didn't live with, I suspect I'd probably do it. But I certainly wouldn't do it with someone I was anxious about 'offending' with a simple request to delete some photos, ffs.

Not trying to make you feel bad, but FYI, there are several different workarounds if anyone wants to override any app that tries to prevent screenshots being taken. You don't have to be terribly tech savvy.

hope you really have sorted it out and also hope you've learnt a valuable lesson from this.

just dont sext people. it's a bad idea. more so with virtual strangers but even with a person you trust - good relationships break down and the nicest people can become nasty and vengeful if they are very hurt, phones get stolen, phones are sometimes swiped off a table by a drunk mate for a scroll through and a laugh etc.

The best way to ensure your privacy is not to get into a situation where anyone has any sexting or nudes from you on their phone at all.

@kittykatsupreme this guy so far seems quite respectful in terms of consent always making sure I am comfortable and not being pushy if I say no but it's first time I sext sb and it happened in the spur of the moment without thinking really .afterwards I freaked out a bit as I started reading what can go wrong from sharing the messages with their friends to posting them online.
If he wants more sexting in the future I will tell him I am not comfortable anymore and we can talk sex when we are together in person.