Wedding Gift for boss

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TigerSteak · 31/10/2024 21:53

I've been invited to the wedding of my boss, what's the etiquette gift-wise? She has a list with gifts ranging from £30 to £500.

I'm autistic so I just need help knowing exactly how much I should spend so I don't cause offence, help!

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Rocknrollstar · 01/11/2024 07:49

£100 would be fine. Purchase the gift now and stop looking at this thread.

stichguru · 01/11/2024 08:00

TigerSteak · 01/11/2024 07:21

There are so many unwritten rules with socialising that I would never know or realise unless specifically pointed out to me, but I know it's possible to offend someone, it's a myth that autism means you don't have empathy.

Because there is a gift list, I know a gift is expected - but which gift? How much do I spend, in this context as an employee?

If I spend too little, would she think I'm a horrible person - but how much is too little, £10, £100, £200?

If I spend too much, would she think I'm weird and be offended - again, how much is too much?

I wanted to check if there's a normal, usual amount for gifts, so I don't get it wrong. :)

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Thank you for taking the time to reply. I understand now.

SwedishHills · 01/11/2024 08:04

As others have said, £100 is perfect

Psychologymam · 01/11/2024 08:23

Mirren22 · 01/11/2024 00:30

Please don't listen to @Chowtime as there is no 'it's X amount for wedding and X amount for bestie' in fact I think Chow got mixed up and meant the amounts the other way around. I really despise this whole wedding gift and what has now become an ask for vouchers and honeymoon cash, genuinely think it is so crass and that invitees time to attend which usually involves transport, hotel stay (easily 150) alone, childcare maybe. I can't fathom people asking for gift on top. I would really liked to hear the alternative argument and justification from anyone soon to be married? Do you have along list of John Lewis pots and pans and bedding..::

We didn’t ask for gifts or money - which is the norm in our group…. But most people gave about 250, some a lot more, some a little less. We didn’t mind at all if we didn’t get a gift and just fully appreciated people turning up, but I would always gift similar amounts myself - I would feel rude for me not to when that’s the typical gift even if expectation isn’t there if that makes sense!

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