Left my STBHX in April due to abuse. Since then he’s been an absolute nightmare; denying abuse completely, making out I was mentally unstable, turning my friends against me, wanting to fix things and offering me the world if I wanted to give us another go, blaming his MH for the abuse and wanting me to support him in “getting better”, then he met someone else and she has been very heavily involved with my DD (initially without me even being told) despite me saying this made me uncomfortable with how quick it was, then he thought he’d acted rashly and wanted to fix things between us (again) despite making no attempt to break things off with his new GF.
I got quotes for, arranged and paid for a company to sort the hugely overgrown garden, arranged estate agent valuation and photographer and did all but one of the 10 viewings we’ve had, going round to clean/tidy up on all occasions. We’ve now agreed on another estate agent (the first was a more “budget” one and we weren’t getting any feedback and it’s all on an app which there’s been a couple of issues with) and I’ve arranged and paid for the garden to be done again, arranged the valuation again and the photographer is coming this week, told STBXH and his response was “I’m not in that day”. Not a massive issue because it’s still my house and I’ve got keys etc, but it makes my back hurt just thinking about how much effort I put in last time de-cluttering and tidying so it looked nice for the photos, and I’m dreading doing it all again, alone. Not even really an AIBU, but I just needed to rant!