To be annoyed that xmil tells DS he is anorexic

[barnical]

Ds is fit healthy, play lots of sports and eats like a horse. On a visit to GP (routine app) GP said he was just an active boy and good on him.
He IS tall and skinny, he used to be the roundest baby going LOL ( proud mum)

But Xmil keeps telling him he is annorexic (sp?), he is just 9. He is now telling me that grandma thinks he should eat more and she has been feeding junk to fatten him up.
He told her that GP said he was fine but she is still going on to him about it.
Doing this on his time spent with his dad.

the sensible thing to do:
talk to your exdh and ex mil and tell them to refrain

the real world:
tell son granny is a a silly bitch

I have sent letter to both X and Xmil, but she still carries on.
I will do another one.

It's a control thing isn't it?

Ohhhhh I have a friend who sort of does this! My ds is very tall and very slender although eats very healthily and very, very active. Friend really p's me off telling me I should let him have more sweets and chocolate etc to fatten him up! Incidentally, her ds was recently in hospital for poor diet related issue!

Some people just can't see they are talking utter tosh! Stupid woman is going to give your poor ds a complex about his body size/image. Ask her if she would tell a grand daughter she was too fat and risk inducing an eating disorder? Same thing imo as constantly commenting in a megative manner about your young ds's body size is very unhealthy.

Can you slap her around the chops with a wet fish??? Argh! This sort of thing makes me so cross!

i have soooooooo many food issues with my MIL (I'm too fat, kids are too thin, fruit gives them diarrhea, etc...), i reeeeally empathise with you.

honestly, tell her to quit or you will limit her access to them. you don't want her to inflict this kind of stuff on him-- food issues will haunt him for the rest of his life.

Thank you mums.. honestly I am really cross, he is such a handsome boy too.

Oh and the xFil has an issue about his ears! aghhhh
I just really fed up with them picking on him.

ooohhh this gets my goat!!!

Would she rather your DS ate a load or rubbish and was really unheathly on the inside ?

Speaking from experience eating disorders are awful and it sounds as though you are raising a well balanced healthy lad who is having a balanced diet and excercsing regularly. So what if he is lean ?

Bet she would soon wind her neck in if you followed her advice and your son developed diabetes later in life because of the "junk food" she recommended he ate!!!

To sum up YANBU

Control thing , yes I have to agree. later in life issues again I agree.

( the woman also told son that I must be ill, due to being thin... FGS I'm 5'3 and 8st6lbs! agghhhh )

Hey, I am 5'4 and that's my ideal weight... I weigh considerably more, partly due to the unhealthy eating habits and neurosis I picked up about food from my nutty food-obsessed family.

hey ore I could weigh less but I love my biccies with a cuppa

Interestingly, I was always comsidered too thin by my MIL. She even mentioned to DH that I must have an eating disorder etc etc (I didn't) I am 5'4" and 8 stone. She was always trying to make me eat more when I ate a perfectly healthy vegetarian diet. Then her daughter lost weight during her divorce and when we arrived for a visit after being overseas for a number of years MIL commentte3d proudly, 'The only good thing to come of it all is that after years of carrying around that extra stone or 2 she couldn't shift, 'J' has lost loads of weight with all the stress of the divorce. She's about your size now and looking really well.'