Keeps pulling out of dates

[Sunnydaze22]

I was DMd by a friend of a friend who I've met before a few weeks back. We started chatting regularly and all seemed to be going great.

Arranged to meet up for them unable to as their daughter was ill.

So continued chatting, met briefly and got on great so arranged another date (they are a single parent so have to work around this). I had noticed texts getting fewer in the last couple of days so sent one asking if we are still on for tomorrow to be told that they can't get a babysitter so "maybe another time".

They are very sorry but I am feeling that I'm having my time wasted here. Am I being unreasonable for just cutting contact or should I be more understanding?

They have lost interest.

He's just not very interested. Don't waste your time on him. Don't reply. Block. End of.

I'm afraid "Maybe another time" sounds to me like they're not interested any more. Sorry, I kno that's probably disappointing.

To be fair, it could be that it's all too much managing the kids on their own, they aren't in the right space for a relationship right now.

They get one chance to rearrange.In my experience though any man who cancels ever never comes to anything.

Once chance at rearranging, that was my rule like the poster above. I’m a single parent too, but I wouldn’t expect anyone to wait around if I can’t sort myself and the kids out, so I wouldn’t be messed around by someone else.
It could be a real issue, and if you can’t even manage a proper date then it doesn’t signal an easy go of it if you want to date regularly. And they may just not be all that interested.

I don’t think it never comes to anything. I started seeing a man and he cancelled the second date at quite short notice and rearranged for later in the week. I’ve now been with him for just shy of a year.

Cancelling and rearranging on the spot is one thing. Cancelling with no alternative suggestion is a definite no go. He’s not interested

Saying maybe another time doesn't sound enthusiastic to be honest. I doubt it is going to come to anything, it might be just that juggling things as a single parent and dating is just too hard at the moment! Don't take it personally, I'd just leave it and be friendly as normal if you do happen to bump into them.

I wouldn’t say anything else and just leave it.

thanks for the advice. I saw her today (not as a date) and she was stand-offish so best to leave it

Yeah, he's not into you. He may have connected with ('fucked') another date in the meantime. It's not the best ghosting ever but just block and move on.