How do you get over the pain and hurt of being wronged by others?

[MyHappyBiscuit]

I’ve tried to be kind to myself this weekend - really, I have. But here I am, nearly 3 am, unable to sleep, and just overwhelmed by memories of people who have hurt me. I keep thinking of times I was wronged, even when I tried my best to be kind and trusting. It’s left me feeling damaged and questioning who I can rely on.

I know that tomorrow I’ll probably pick myself up and try to give myself grace. But right now, it’s hard not to feel sad and like I just want to pack everything up and walk away. I wonder, does anyone have any advice for letting go of the pain and finding a way forward? How do you stop these late-night thoughts and actually start healing?

I am sorry to hear this.... I would say acceptance is the key and that comes with time.

I know that I have been wronged by friends on occasions, there is a poem a friend for a reason a friend for a season etc. I know that looking back on the friendships which have caused me the most pain, I've considered those friendships on how much joy did I get from them , why did the friendship fall apart, what part did I play and the most important one, what did i get from the friendship? Often something would happen, there would be catalyst and in my case, I often needed more than what others could offer.

I don't think my expectations were too high, but it was more than what others could and would provide, in which case I moved away and moved on. Of course it was upsetting, but understanding my role was key and understanding and respecting my boundaries was of uttermost importance.

I would consider writing a letter to yourself reflecting on your circumstances and give yourself some advice. I believe that like relationships, friendships change and this is something that most of us can relate to

Be kind to yourself,, it's sad when a friendship fails, but that does not take away that it was important to you and you will feel anger and sadness, it's part of the letting go process.