I can't quite figure out what my husband is doing nor do I think my husband is doing it intentionally.
This year has been a tough year. Both my husband and I struggle with our MH for which we take treatment for. My DH is currently changing his treatment however it has side effects which are troublesome and after speaking with a friend who is a psychiatrist she has given us some alternatives. I have talked through these options with my DH. I asked DH before talking this through with my friend.
At first he said he wanted to stay with what the GP had started him on. I said ok, absolutely his choice. He then u turns and says he'll call the gp tomorrow to talk through the other options. I now start hearing alarm bells because my DH has form for doing this, he will tend to use this type of decision making as proof for my controlling behaviour despite me making it very clear it was his choice. Only recently did we have a horrible argument where I was accused of this so I am hyper aware of what and how I say things around him.
I feel like I have to be careful around him, he has me second guessing what I am saying. If I say the sky is blue, he will say but that's not what you meant though is it? Because it's really got clouds in it too hasn't it. Only earlier he was adamant I had said something but had to retract because I knew I wouldn't have known anything about it.
Unfortunately for my DH when his depression worsens, so does his paranoia, making any meaningful conversation difficult.
What the heck do I do?