To moan about kids watching clips on their phone without headphones

[TeenLifeMum]

When did it become acceptable for dc to sit on a train watching TikTok on full volume? I was patient to a point but after 40 minutes I cracked. My glares weren’t working. Dc looks about 10. I leaned over and asked her to turn it down please. The mum glared and said why… I said “usually people use headphones” and the mum looked blankly and replied “yeah we didn’t bring any though 🤷🏻‍♀️”. I rolled my eyes and said “it’s just so bloody rude” and now she’s loudly going on and on about the sweary rude lady (me) and how I should be grateful dc isn’t screaming.

I’m on this train for 3 hours after a long day. Is it too much to expect a parent to parent their dc? I wouldn’t dream of being so inconsiderate.

It's rude no matter the age of the person doing it, my DC know that they either wear headphones or they have the volume set to zero. I'd have said something too.

It's beyond annoying and completely inconsiderate, so simple to just use headphones and not pollute anyone else.

What a conceited little cunt, that woman was.
Unfortunately this is becoming the norm. Credit to you OP for standing up to these appalling manners.

I'd find it no more annoying than someone on a phone call for large parts of the journey. That is part of why travelling on public transport is so crap. You can't police other people's behaviour so I'd just take noise cancelling headphones instead.

Rude arsehole parents unfortunately breed rude arsehole kids.

Yes. It's not just kids though. I've started calling it out now to prevent it becoming normalised. My usual line is "Excuse me. Do you have earphones?" They usually say no, but offer to turn it down/off. I don't want to get into an argument with anyone.

This drives me crazy too! Luckily I am usually on short bus journeys so I just put up with it.
YWNBU to say something but I'd have avoided swearing. And start carrying your own earphones so you can drown the selfish buggers out next time.

Shame the kid can't read a book, his attention span is prob too shot from years of staring at screens

I didn’t really want to put my earphones in, I was playing hangman with my own dd. I think I was more stunned at how a woman in her late 40s could be so oblivious about the impact on others. I hate confrontation but apparently this is my tipping point 😂🙈

It's not just kids. I moved out of London six or seven years ago but visit family a few times a year. Last time I visited I was surprised to see people of all ages and walks of life were at it. There was a well to-do suited and booted guy in his 50s next to me at one point scrolling through TikTok at full volume. It seems to be normalised behaviour now. I find it incredibly irritating too.

Tell them you've got misophonia, and can't tolerate such noise

I see adults doing this as much as children!!!

Only yesterday there was an older man sitting in a cafe watching TV on his phone at full volume. Stormed off when he was asked to turn it off.

I’ve also been on two flights recently where people have had the volume on iPads with cartoons playing.

In all cases, buy some bloody headphones!

why just kids? i get on the bus and frequently hear adults listening to music without headphones or watching things. the bus driver told a man off the other day so no it isn’t just kids or is it only kids doing it that bother you?

Same time as adults stopped giving a fuck too. I see more adults on the bus guilty of this. Full on facetime conversations with no ear pods and watching videos too. Obnoxious.

It's so bloomin rude. My partner asked a young guy to turn his phone down on the train recently and (shock news) he apologised and turned it down!!

I feel your pain OP. I was at the gym last week which has loud music playing anyway and a women joined me on the treadmills and started watching a programme on her phone with no earphones. Is nowhere safe from these imbeciles now?

It's a really weird thing to do IMO. Why make everyone else listen to what you're listening to?

The problem is that it is rapidly becoming normalised. The more people who do it the more other people think they will as well. See also aggressive driving.

It's almost impossible to get on a train these days without someone doing this. And frankly, it's often NOT kids. I find it mind blowing.

I've started calling it out now to prevent it becoming normalised.

This ++++ @Courgettesandonions

I do this and ask everyone to do the same.

I just say please could you turn the sound off or use some headphones.
If queried why, I say 'the noise is very intrusive and disturbing to other passengers' and depending on the response sometimes 'It's a bit (or very again depending) antisocial to listen without head phones". If there were no headphones, I'd suggest watching something with subtitles or doing something that doesn't need sound like a game.

I've never had anyone refuse or be very aggressive. Sometimes people have moved out of quiet carriages on trains/

We all stand together in this and unless we ask people to stop like @Courgettesandonions says it will become normalised and it is fucking rude.

Annoying and getting more common. I remember back in 2006/2007 having to listen to shitty music being played off phones on the bus. It used to just be the dodgy kids doing it back them but seems to be everyone now.

It's kids and adults, so bloody selfish, but they just don't care. Just been for an appointment at Specsavers and in the very small waiting area, one kid was playing games on his phone on full volume, his mum was having a conversation with someone on speaker phone as was a separate woman. I couldn't use my headphones or I wouldn't have been able to hear them when they called me. Sets my misophonia right off 😡

It's definitely becoming increasingly common and it's bloody rude and inconsiderate. I actually worry what these people are like if they have such little regard and consideration of others.

Mainly seen it in teens/young adults, some of them I honestly would have been a bit scared of approaching.

But saw a 50-year-old woman last week doing this too. I was just about to get off otherwise I would have said something.

Maybe public transport companies also need to communicate this before it becomes fully established.

Very recently I was on a train and a woman was playing a video out loud with lots of swearing.

A woman who was sat opposite told the woman off as there were young kids around.

The woman apologised and said she forgot her earphones.

If I forget my earphones, I don't play anything out loud. Why do people think they're entitled to?

What would happen if everyone did this and none of them could hear their own videos because of the surrounding noise? Maybe it will go full circle and headphones will become normal again.