Boyfriend isn’t that bothered about our anniversary?

[Monster1996x]

We have been together for 2 years next week. I’ve been really excited and I associate a lot of this time of year towards the time we were getting to know each other. I do get quite nostalgic and remember the autumn months as the time we fell in love etc. so I love anniversaries.

I asked bf what we are doing and he wants to prioritise buying things for our new house. Rather than spending money on anniversary. He said we can definitely spend the day together but it doesn’t need to be a huge celebration

Fair enough, but I asked him if he’s even bothered and he said around a 4 out of 10. I am like a 7 or 8. He said he doesn’t really think about anniversaries etc because he “isn’t very nostalgic” and “doesn’t live in the past, he only looks at the future”. It hurts because I have such high emotions and associations towards this date, but he hasn’t at all.

This has really upset me, am I being stupid?

That's quite a leap. He is saving money for your future house together and you extrapolate his lack of interest from him wanting to keep celebrations low key... What did you plan for your anniversary then? Why is it all on him?

Both of you have to compromise. You tone it down and he at least fains excitement.
Since you are the driver, so you should plan anniversary. He has his head screwed on with saving for house, that's good.

Different outlooks. My dh isn’t bothered about anniversaries or birthdays either. For him, it’s a ‘what would you like for your birthday?’, whilst I’d rather a surprise, a gift he’s thought about.

He’ll never change.

I don't even know the anniversary of meeting my now husband. We didn't acknowledge or celebrate that pre marriage.

We do celebrate our wedding anniversaries (25 years now) and he never forgets, although I did one year.

Do you get jealous when he walks past a female?

I have a feeling you are looking for attention I would work on that first

Wouldn’t worry or bother me in the slightest. We’ve never celebrated the anniversary of us getting together and our wedding anniversary is usually a card and a meal out. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do more but I don’t see anything wrong in his approach to it.