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to be at an all time low

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Anasjwj · 27/10/2024 14:25

more on the aibu to get some urgent advice as I have never felt more of a failure than I have now
I have 5 month old, with someone I was with for 3 years before we got pregnant, we was just about to move out together then we broke up he left me at 9 months pregnant,
my business was doing ok at the time, well I say ok, about 2k a month but it suddenly took. huge hit and I now earn crap this month inly 500, im planning on signing on to uc tomorrow and asking for help
my biggest worry and why I feel like such a failure is im staying with an family member which I had to beg to let me stay with them otherwise I wouldve been pregnant and homeless, but today ive noticed black mould all over my bedroom wall, and to my horror my bed too it had only been a week since I got it all out and cleaned it, the family member said it happens every winter just only told me now ( I stay all day in the bedroom as I dont really get along with the family member,)
I begged them to swap bedrooms which kindly they did but there's still mould in there room but its more green than black I cleaned it as best as I could and will do as soon as I see it, its the only room in the house with the least amount so this is my best option
I have asthma and it is affecting me, and so worried about baby

upon looking online it seems the council wont help me with housing, as mould isn't urgent, the family member wants me to go as they're looking at downsizing asap but it doesn't class me as homeless I guess yet,

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Mrsttcno1 · 27/10/2024 14:30

If the family member formally says you are not able to stay with them anymore then you are officially homeless and so the council will be able to step in. It’s an awful option and not great with a young baby but it will force the council’s hand.

The only thing is you’ll then be in a position where the place you are given could be b&b, shared place, 1 bed flat etc, in a different area, but you can’t decline whatever they offer you as then you are classed as making yourself intentionally homeless.

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