To feel hurt when close friends or family take weeks to reply?

[ArtfulTurtle]

I understand everyone is busy and that life can get hectic, but sometimes it feels like I’m low on the priority list when friends or family take weeks to respond to my messages. It’s not just a one-off, but happens fairly regularly, even when I know they’re active on social media or responding quickly to others.

I’m not expecting instant replies, but I start to wonder if this is normal or if I’m overthinking it. Does anyone else feel hurt or overlooked when this happens, or AIBU? How long would you typically wait before following up, or do you just let it go?

It depends on what the message is. If someone messages me a general “hi, how are you” I might intend to respond (but will probably forget). If someone messages me “I’m having a bad time x has happened…” I’d probably call back. I’m finding I have less and less patience for text conversations.

And vice versa, I don’t mind if my friends take a wee while to respond to my “checking in texts” I know if I had something going on they would be there.

I'm one of these people. I'm genuinely so busy that I often read something and if it's a generic 'hi, how are you' catch up text then I continue with what I'm doing and usually forget to reply. However, if someone is reaching out and is struggling, I will consciously make the effort to reply straightaway or arrange to see them.
I see social media as my way of escaping from the world, so even though I'm using my phone and active, I don't necessarily want to communicate by texting people.

It’s a bit irritating when you message some one, they take the time to read it and could type a quick reply back but don’t, I just stop making the effort when it happens each time you message certain people.