Don't want to get married

[beauborino]

Interested in some opinions here .Maybe AIBU .
Been together 7 years -live together get along fine -good life -shared goals .
Have achieved liots together .
Problem is -he wants to get married .
I have been married once before -cheated on ex stole 50k .
He had been married twice -says I am the one .
I don't want to marry again it means nothing to me .
Also worried that I have more money and property so got more to lose .
Female 57 ..AIBU?

Listen to your gut. Do what it’s telling you.
I bloody wish I had.

Honestly I wouldn’t.

I am in the same position. Long term relationship. Have a fair bit to lose in assets and pension so absolutely won’t be risking that.

Theres no upside.

I’m in the same boat. There’s no benefit to me whatsoever and I’d be risking my financial security and that of my child.

I know a 50 something guy about to approach his third or fourth marriage. He has five kids with three different mums.....Do think at this point it's time to accept that marriage isn't for him...

I don't blame you for your reservations. Whatever you do, make sure you protect your money.

YANBU at all! Marriage is a thing that should only happen if BOTH partners actively want it.

Have you given him a clear "no", and he still persists in asking, or are you looking for feedback before giving him an answer? A firm "no" is absolutely fine and he shouldn't persist after that; he needs to decide if he'll accept continuing the current status of the relationship or end it.

I would listen and try to understand his reasons for wanting to marry; if they're mostly practical or social there may be ways to accomplish them without marriage and move on together without this disconnect between you. If they're more philosophical, including religious or spiritual, he may be unable to get past them.

Do either of you have children? If so marriage could lead to a mess re inheritance. I would not consider marrying again under any circumstances for that reason. It's very different in a relationship where future children are planned.

In your case one reason to get married would be to protect the other one from inheritance tax.

OP in your situation I would not get married again.

I am divorced and although there's a way to go to settle the FCO I am a bit precious about what that agreement leaves me and I'm determined to hang onto it. Marriage would split my money again. I'd rather leave it to my daughter to be honest. Don't do it.