Dad of teenaged boy

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Has anyone else experienced this?
I have a husband and some kids. The eldest (boy) is a young teen.

I seem to have moved from being one of 2 adults in the house to now being the sole adult with conspiring teenaged boys as well as the younger ones. The sniggering, bottom, willy, balls, fart jokes, "that's what she said" and other such juvenile comments is really grinding me down. I feel like it's me against them. Obviously there's a time and a place for silliness and messing about, but I'm exhausted from them forming a teenaged boy alliance which seems to be deliberately in defiance of normal, adult family rules.
I might not be explaining myself well and want to be clear that I am by no means a joy thief and I embrace fun and silliness. But sometimes the adults need to hold the line and be in charge, and I feel that I'm starting to be alone in the discipline requirements in my home and it's a little lonely.

Is this usual and AIBU?

Have a word in private with DH. Say it's really good to see him and DS getting along so well, but it's actually undermining you as you feel DH is accidental encouraging DS to not take any notice of you as a parent, and you have concerns about how this will play out as DS becomes 15/16 and you have to navigate smoking, weed, bunking off school etc. and you don't want DH to find himself sidelined and ignored by DS.

Your DH does need to tread a fine line here.

You shouldn’t start a thread about this
There is one thing to do
talk to your husband

Your husband sounds a bit…. yuck

Agree, I’d ask DH for a sit down and a chat.

During that chat I’d suggest he looks for and completes a parenting course for teens (there are plenty online) before he finds himself utterly ineffective in the face of a 6ft teenager who has absolutely zero respect for him because he’s spent these formative years acting like an immature little prick rather than a father.

I have 5 boys and yes there were willy/bum/fart jokes when they were younger but by teens they had outgrown this and were great to have proper adult-ish conversations with. Speak to your husband, he shouldn't be encouraging or joining in with the juvenile behaviour and should be setting an example for his son, especially with the way he treats you. Children learn by example and we model the behaviour we want them to emulate. Your DH needs to grow up!

A lot of men never grow out of fart, bum and toilet humour…
But the issue here isn’t the jokes, it’s your husband trying to be mates with his kids rather than a parent. There is a time for jokes but also time to act like an adult.

Speak to yr hubby