Covid Vaccine for son

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I'll start by saying I am pro vaccine. Both by children have had all their vaccines and will continue to do so.
My nearly 7 year old DS has asthma and a long history of hospital admissions to help with his breathing (though not in the last year). He has just had his 3rd covid vaccine today following the letter we had recommending he has it.
I mentioned to my sister that he'd just had it done because we are meant to be meeting tomorrow but DS may be feeling off so just warned her that me might have to rearrange.
She started going on about how I'm putting him at risk of myocarditis etc etc. Really usual for her because both her children have had their vaccines, although I'm unsure if they ever had their covid ones.
I told her to keep vaccine opinions to herself. The risk of myocarditis is proven to be higher from covid than the vaccine and really I'd be horrified with myself if DS ended up in hospital due to covid. I know vaccines aren't 100% but knowing I could have helped prevent
Now I'm being sent links to articles about how bad the covid vaccine is, I'm putting him at risk blah blah. I've temporarily blocked her for now but it's left me reeling and questioning my own judgements. I'm not going down the path of anti vax, but hate that she's trying to.

Aibu to just keep her blocked for a while?

let me guess

you and your sister have quite a chequered history of disagreeing and drama?

Nope, this is really out of character for her.

She is right. A recent study showed the risk is much higher in the vaccinated.

That's tough to hear from your sister. It's hard enough to get the covid vaccine with all the anti-vax information out there. You've done the right thing. If your son got hospitalised again, he would catch covid whilst I'm hospital and at his most vulnerable. No one else will do anything to protect him, so you are a super mum giving him a tool to help. I think just have a break away from your phone for a while. Know you made the judgement that's right for your son.

i’m surprised

pushing the point
you asking her not to
she continuing any way and bombarding you with links
and then you blocking her

not normal for an otherwise loving close relationship

what does she expect you to do?

Somehow extract the vaccine from him

so… she’s basically just being cruel

lovely!

The vaccination of children against Covid was the first time children were vaccinated for social reasons and not a medical reason. The benefits of vaccination for children is negligible- it was always to protect older or more vulnerable contacts.

I agree with @bestbehaveyou what does she expect you to do, extract the vaccine out?
I absolutely hate this sort of response. My relatives sometimes do this so I limit sharing medical info with them or tell them about events well afterwards. A few times when I was catch up unprepared I did a very emotional response sort of : do you try to cause an anxiety attack in me ??? Raised voice with a lot of emotions then put mobile down, switch off sound and don’t react for a few days. Then call them and talk about something else.

Except he has been offered a covid booster because he's clinically vulnerable and at high risk of being seriously ill if he gets covid.

OP i would keep your sister blocked until she's willing to apologise.

Not antivax here. My sons had all their shots plus shots for the winter flu so I am really pro vaccine. But I did research on the covid vaccine and decided against it because there is a high risk of myocarditis for adolescent boys in particular. You always have to look at the risk/benefit of a vaccine. Since my boys don't have any pathology making them vulnerable of Covid giving them the covid vaccine would be potentially more harmful for them than from them having covid.

Now, you're in a different position since your son DOES have a pathology that would put him at risk if contracting Covid therefore the cost/benefit analysis would be different in your case and you were absolutely right to follow your doctor's recommendation.

Just tell your sister that each case is different. For some it's not worth taking the vaccine, for some it is. And unless she's an expert in medecine she should not insist and make you feel guilty for doing everything you can to keep your son safe and healthy by following medical experts advice.

Each case is unique. For an otherwise healthy boy/adolescent I would say don't have it. This is not OP's case though.

‘Conclusions of this observational study of 800,000 children in the U.K. Covid vaccines were associated with all cases of periocarditis and myocarditis’

This vaccine is neither safe nor effective. I am baffled that people continue to take it.

https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2024.05.20.24306810v1.full.pdf