Name Change

[beachcitygirl]

Ex husband new wife wants me to change my name back to maiden name.
It's our kids name, and been my name for -15 years. Am I being unreasonable to refuse.

I'm reasonably well known in my work field under my married name &
A) it's a hassle
B) it's my kids name
c) it could harm me professionally to change names

I do not love him any more & I do t want to be a dick but this feels unreasonable- am I wrong

YANBU. I've kept my married name, it's my kids name and it's been my name longer than my maiden name was.

If new wife is that bothered your ex could change his surname to hers.

Ignore her. It’s not her decision. Of course you want to keep the same name as your children, and the one you have built your professional reputation with.

YANBU.

Like you're going to change the name you share with your children because another woman wants you to. 100% CF. Please ignore.

My goodness: who does she think she is trying to tell you to change your name to suit her!
Of course you should keep your name if that's what YOU want.

It's your name. Otherwise women who take a man's name never have their own name. It either belongs to you or it doesn't.

What a cheeky mare , as pp said tell your ex to adopt her name.

Thanks guys. He's an arse & didn't even tell our kids that he was getting married (they seen it on instagram& out of the blue I get this message.. I was incline to be very rude by return but was just sense checking x

Would love to know how he phrased that request in a text!

I stand corrected X2 CFs!

Ohh that's a real dickish thing to do . There is no way your dcs should find out that kind of information on line .
If he is to much of a coward to meet up with them and tell them directly he could of at least phoned them or even a text would of been some kind of acknowledgement.

I can see why he is a ex !

I am in the process of changing my name back to my birth name, and my god, it's a fucking hassle. But it's my choice to be called that name. I didn't have to change my name to ExH's when we married but I did. What we call ourselves is nobody else's business. Tell the woman to bog off.

I would say no thank you and suggest they take her name.

I kept ex husband's name until I remarried.

I think we should normalise women keeping their own name and children taking their mother's name.

That’s her insecurity talking, and it has absolutely nothing to do with you.