To ask how to contain my rage?

[malificent7]

Training atm and it seems it's one rule for me and another for everyone else.
I am aboit 20 mins earlier than everyone else as want to make a good impression and set up..also that's how my bus times role.
The one time I am a bit late ( by 14 mins as they swapped my shift times over at the last minute) I get made an example of in front of everyone.
I don't mind being pulled up for being late but i do mind as all existing staff are late
Also, I have been told to concentrate whilst I do all the work and everyone. else goes on their phones and takes personal calls.
Also, the goal posts have changed.....i was told to ignore x last week and concentrate on y. This week I have been told that I should have been concentrating on x and not y.
I need the money...please talk me down from telling them to fuck themselves!

Look for a new job then leave. Asap!

If its group training, are the others not being told to concentrate on different things too? It could be a case of others knowing which rules they can push with their phones. Unfortunately, being early doesn't gain anything, 14 mins is very late for training, but it sounds like you had work as a valid reason, a "sorry, got stuck at work "should suffice.
The others would probably say their jobs are too important to not be available via phone contact for. It's quite common for people to be a few minutes late and get away with it, people will often start 5 mins later.
I get you feel singled out, could it be that you take things more literally whereas sometimes people are reading between the lines?

It's often the case that longer standing members of staff "get away" with more
Usually the ones who have proved that even being a few minutes late or appearing to mess around on their phones they can get work done.

I am fuming as my boss has told me in front of everyone " she will be on my back"and lets everyone else walz in whenever.
I do feel singled out and bullied tbh.

I was told this department was toxic...im annoyed that i even graced them with my precence tbh ( not that that is my attitude....i am very helpful normally).

I have been desperate to do work since the beginning and been very keen to gain experience.

I was only late as I was scheduled for 10-6 then they changed it to 9.30- 6.30 instead....the evening beforw.

I worked somewhere like this. It didn’t get better and caused a lot of resentment through the staff. There were the same ones getting away with stuff and doing next to nothing, and others who were lucky to have their tea break. It was a toxic work environment.
The fact it’s like this at the start when you are training would have my alarm bells ringing loudly. It doesn’t sound a fair work environment.

Bite your tongue and get a different job as soon as you can. Getting money enough to live is your motivation for containing rage. When you type out your resignation the rage will go.

The thing is..i set off super early the other day to avoid floods...i sat in my car till my shift started. I was then told off for not starting sooner ( as my superiors rocked up after me ..and one of them late).
I am so livid I dont know if I can contain myself tbh.

I'm guessing you're not very familiar with jobs because this is how they work. You could turn up an hour early every day for 10 years and then be 5 mins late once and the 5 mins is what they'll call you out on. I used to arrive on time and got told off because "it's start at 9, not arrive at 9" even though all I had to do was sit down and wiggle my mouse to wake up my computer, because I never had long coffee breaks like everyone else.

I worked in a place once that had a register every morning. I was told off for not holding the door open for a director even though she was still in her car when I opened said door.

If you work longer hours they accuse you of shirking because you should fit all your job into your standard hours and it means you're not working hard enough during the day.

The only way to win is to kiss your direct manager's arse and put up with all their bullshit. But not too well, because you'll never get promoted if you're too good. Because they worry about how they'll replace you and tell you you're great at your job and promise you payrises and promotions that never happen because they're thinking of their own best interests.

And you'll also be the fall guy for your manager, you'll be the victim and the one whose ideas are stolen and passed off as theirs. Just like how Dolly Parton sang it.

So you can either try to find something that pays more money, or quiet quit by doing the bare minimum with a smile on your face, and taking occasional short enough sick periods to be paid in full to give yourself more holiday entitlement.

The latter appears to be what everyone else is doing so I will follow suit!

I am the only one training. Also realised the goal ppsts have changed the week before my exam. I have been asking to learn more about the systems at work but been told to concentrate on my exam...yesterday I was told off for not nailing the systems!
Feels like head fuckery to me!

it helps to get things in writing. If someone is giving you instructions ask them to wait while you write things down in front of them. That way when the goal posts shift you can quickly pull up your notes and say that on this date you were told something different, but it’s good to know things have changed because you can update your notes.
if they criticise your work, ask them for a list of concrete things they need to see, not vague things like attitude or enthusiasm. Write these down and refer to them.
This way, you and your boss are no longer arguing with each other, you are arguing with your notes. Your boss can then argue that your notes are wrong and you can fix that, but your boss will learn that whenever they criticise you, you have a list a list of notes and it will make it more difficult for them to target you needlessly.