To expect a better bye than this?

[CraftyMentor]

I’m leaving my current place of work. Things happened very fast. I work on education. I applied for a role on a Monday which offered progression. Got shortlisted on a Thursday, got called into interview and landed the job on the Monday following on.

I had wanted to leave for a while. I pushed through for a long time but I hit breaking point and just needed to go. HT found out through LM this Tuesday. The whole week went by and I never got a congratulations or anything.

Decided that today I’d hand my notice in and I do hard copy and email copy. Decided to pop in and speak to the HT about this and formalise it ans as a matter of courtesy just leave on a good note sent her an email asking when she was free. Got back “super busy. Free after x time if you’re in” . I walked into the office and got “ I already know what you’re going to say anyway before you say it. I asked your LM because I needed to know things from a staffing POV.(not wanted to know if you were successful so I could wish you the best or anything) So I said “yes I just wanted to have a quick chat really that’s all and let you know considering it’s been 3 years I’ve been here” and I got “can you ask your school to push back the start date” my response was “it’s not negotiable unfortunately”

some of the slt have said they’d miss me someone else who is slt also mentioned id be hard to replace etc but. I actually would have appreciated it if the ht offered me that same reception.

AIBU for expecting a bit more than this. (Not blowing my trumpet but I know I’m good at what I do and dedicated to it.)

Match her energy.
The HT was rude.
Not surprised you are glad to be leaving.
Suit yourself and hopefully the move will be positive.

It was. I hate animosity so I try to be professional and kind. But actually. At this point I just feel like keeping to myself and not engaging. It never hurts to pass on a well done. It need not be a convoluted process. Along with the “I’m really busy today but pop in at x time” made me feel like it was “look k know what you’re about to say. I don’t care. So actually, why are you wasting my time.”

You're not even leaving yet. Why would you expect a 'bye' when you still work there and haven't left?

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That will come in the week/day you actually leave, where they might do something for you/drinks/cake or something. But you haven't even left yet so why do you want her to say goodbye yet? I don't get the point of your thread. It's very odd.

Op I'm shocked at these comments tbh. I'd be absolutely mortified if anyone at my work addressed someone who was leaving like that! Of course it's professional and courteous (and totally normal!) to at the very least congratulate you on the new role, say something along the lines of we'll be sad to see you go. Of course it's disappointing for them but you put that aside and deal with it at an appropriate time. I think she sounds awfully rude and unfortunately like someone who gives no fucks about her staff except for their performance. No wonder you're leaving! I work in the NHS and despite crying out for staff, everyone is always supportive of opportunities others take so having the headache of losing staff and sorting a replacement isn't an excuse to treat people like shit.

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She hasn't even left.

I don't get it, am I missing something? She wants to be told bye when she still works there. The deep and meaningfuls come on the day you leave, surely?

Nothing deep and meaningful about being polite?! if someone came to my office and said they were handing in their notice for a promotion / leadership role, is a normal response not something along the lines of oh no, I'm sorry to hear you're leaving, but congratulations on the new job / promotion. No?

Of course the fact they're not leaving that day doesn't mean a manager can't do professional niceties such as this? On leaving day is when colleagues might say their actual goodbyes. Honestly, what is wrong with the world. A simple tone of interaction can make all the difference. It's really not that hard to be nice.