Is this sexist?

[FloralMoon]

Five year anniversary today
husband and I have swapped thoughtful cards/written sentiments
we have a young baby and I didn’t want to go out without him just so I’ve prepared us a dinner at home
I’m annoyed with my husband for not getting me flowers. It seems such an easy thing to think of and would have made me feel good.
But then I thought to myself - well I didn’t buy him flowers/anything
So I figured it’s perhaps sexist and unreasonable to be annoyed.

But I’m still a bit irked, just buy me some damn flowers next time 😂

YABU - it is sexist and unreasonable to be annoyed at this
YANBU - he should have bought flowers (even if it is slightly sexist)

This is all very light hearted…. My husband is absolutely wonderful. I just like receiving flowers evidently…

Yes, I often ask my partner "where are my flowers" before thinking, well, I didn't get him anything so why am I asking...
I grew up in a very traditional household and sometimes I have to give my head a wobble.

Well, it's sexist that you expect him to buy you flowers but you haven't bought him any. Maybe it would have made him feel good? But you couldn't be bothered, so you can't be annoyed at him unless you also feel that you're in the wrong...

Just to be clear - I’m not outwardly annoyed with him, just a lighthearted thing in my mind that I thought of. I’m obviously not being grumpy with my husband over this…

I don't think it's sexist to wish your DH had bought you flowers.
But it sounds as though you are both celebrating your anniversary in a really loving and thoughtful way so, whereas flowers would have been a nice extra, I wouldn't be too hard on him for not buying them!

Buy yourself some flowers?

Ooh I do think he should've bought flowers and a nice gift, especially as you've just had his baby! X

But she did cook him dinner, so would it really have killed him?!

Well the OP asked if it's sexist. Woman fulfils feminine role of cooking and childcare, man fulfils masculine role of failing to meet woman's expectations - what could be more sexist?

You should ask. I sometimes say 'I think you should get me a present'. In a warm, flirty way. Not demanding. I hope, lol. Then I'll say the thing I like. It only ever happens once every couple of years. Something worth under £50. And only when I know he could afford it.
But yeah, openly ask for flowers. Even send him links to the florists you like or pics of the flowers you like.
I think it would be nice for you to also give him an anniversary gift of similar value, but again, ask him what he'd like. Then you'll both know and keep eachother happy.

Well I haven’t mentioned who fulfils childcare in our relationship, and I have said that I prepared dinner today.

As it happens we shopped for the ingredients together, I prepared the meal, and hubby and I served it together. I started eating whilst he was changing a nappy.

As mentioned in the op, we did exchange thoughtful cards with lovely sentiments so I don’t feel let down.

I do think it it sexist of me to expect flowers from my hubby on a special occasion, however I don’t think it’s a negative expectation or a big deal whether to expect them or not or whether I receive them or not.

This is a very minor, ‘non-issue’ and just a passing thought to get other peoples takes on.

Not today, but some time, tell him you really would like it if he got you flowers occasionally- birthdays, anniversaries, Valentines.

Of course it’s not sexist.

I think a lot of marriages would thrive better if people just communicated and told each other what they want. “I’d love some flowers for my birthday please”

You cooked him dinner and has his baby, he could have bought you some flowers. It doesn’t make you a bad feminist to want a little treat from your partner xx

Mmmm ... I apologise for my tongue in cheek comment, there was no negativity in it, but that's typical of women isn't it...

She cooks dinner, he brings flowers - the whole set up is very stereotypical.

It's sexist to assume women want flowers, yeah. I don't and never have.

If I want flowers I buy them, why do women need to complicate things

And yes me as women saying this is 100% sexist but it is true women seem to complicate everything