I've finally exploded at my mum. I've just had enough of her constantly minimising and always thinking I should put up and shut up. My whole life stuff has happened to me from men and my mum says "was it that bad" "he didn't mean it" "don't complain you'll ruin his life"
How about the men shouldn't have behaved in a certain way and don't minimise and victim blame.
I was in a very abusive relationship. She actually said are you sure this is happening to you and you're not exaggerating. I was a complete mess due to abusive ex and ended up in a refuge.
I had a sexual harassment case at work years ago. He sent me unsolicited dic* pics and spiked my drinks with extra alcohol. He would not leave me alone although I'd made it very clear I didn't fancy him. When I went to HR about my mum said to me "don't get him fired you'll ruin his life"
Today there was a case whereby a worker was being intimidating towards myself and DS. I told her and she said don't complain think about his job and family and life.
She wants me to put up, shut up and smile to men. Not make a fuss. No wonder I ended up in such awful relationships I had no boundaries, thought it was normal to let men treat you so badly. So I've lost it with her. I've told her that I'm entitled to an opinion and if someone upsets me I can complain if I want because they are in the wrong and I shouldn't be made to feel bad for it.
Aibu to finally say something back to her. I've had enough