People being obsessed with sex?

[girlfriend44]

Open marriages are just an excuse to sleep around right?
There's an open marriage thread on MN where a man is saying his wife is in the spare room with her friends with benefits. Later on they are having a couple staying the weekend for sex?
Would they still be together if they didn't sleep with others?
What's this need all about?
He says they are having a great time?
Would they split if they couldn't do this then?

Why does it matter? If it works for someone else it’s none of your business really?

It's not for me, but if it genuinely works for them and is entirely equal, then fine.
Probably better that they found each other than someone who believes in monogamy and cheated on them.

Maybe ask the question on that thread if you're interested. Not sure why you have started a TAAT, unless it's a really old thread.

Wouldn't be able to get my head around it but if it works for some, who am I to judge?

Why do you need your own thread?

Surely these are questions you should be asking on the one you read?

Are you talking about a thread in the Sex topic?
Because I think the majority of posters on that topic are quite openly quite obsessive about sex. And quite a few of the threads deal with subjects which I'm sure aren't to everyone's taste, and life styles which aren't palatable to a lot of people.
It's up to them so long as they are consenting adults . Although I often hope there aren't any children in some of the relationship models some posters have.

Sorry thread Police.

Last time I checked there were no restrictions on what threads you could start.

I think if both adults are happy with the situation then fine, but I do wonder if one person just goes along with it.

I can't think of anything worse though.

What on earth does it have to do with you?

Each to their own.

Can’t see why other people’s sex lives would be of interest to anyone else. Certainly nothing to be concerned about.

Different strokes and all that...

I can't really tell what your question is. Is it 'why do polyamorous people exist' or 'why do people like sex'?

They’re sex people Lynn! Run!

More like. If people in open marriages had to give up sleeping with other people, would their marriages etc survive?

Possibly not because that's their choice. Would you expect a person who is monogamous to continue w marriage if partner becomes poly?

Well there are lots of variables.

Do they 'have' to give up, in this scenario, because their partner no longer wants to have an open marriage/poly set up? In that case, there are two options - either being poly is fundamental to how they approach relationships, in which case, no, I imagine the relationship wouldn't survive because they'd no longer be compatible. Or being poly isn't a dealbreaker for them and they're happy to close the relationship again, in which case there's no reason the marriage wouldn't survive.

If they 'had' to for other reasons - health, logistics, whatever - then again I can't see why the marriage wouldn't survive.

As you've said in your post, you don't understand the drive for an open relationship, so perhaps it's difficult for you to understand, but lots of people have happy, thriving poly or open relationships, which aren't necessarily about an obsession with sex (and even if they were, we're kind of biologically wired to want sex - there's nothing inherently strange about that).

As long as all involved are happy with the arrangement then I couldn't care less. Personally, I am sex obsessed to a degree but my husband fulfills my needs and I like predictability so I don't need to go elsewhere.

Who cares if it suits them.

If all marriages had to be monogamous, would people who don't want monogamy get married? I'll take a guess at No 🙄

I'm sure if works for some people, but remember there are a lot of trolls and fantasists on mumsnet OP. I wouldn't believe everything you read here, especially from men who use mumsnet to tell you about their sex life.

Really?

You need to check again then...

There's no such thing as an open marriage. A marriage is a union between two people. They have broken their marriage vows in engaging in this activity and in my opinion, and are no longer in a real marriage.

See if this is your question then I think it depends.

It’s not for me personally but one of my friends and her husband are swingers, they haven’t always been and have stopped for periods of time, and they always say they probably won’t do it forever but it’s fun for now.

I suppose it depends on the intentions behind doing it. If they are doing it because there is something lacking in their own sex life with each other then stopping it would probably impact their relationship quite heavily and so they may end up separating. However if they just do it as a bit of “extra” fun, similar to a kink, to add to their already good sex life, then stopping it probably wouldn’t have the same impact as they would still have their healthy sex life just without the extra.