I was crazy to start this!

[FromTheBubblegumTree]

Please help to kick my ass in gear. I need some serious motivation.

When DD was 5 months old I thought it would be an excellent idea to start a degree. The first two years are condensed into 1 so it's intense and there are looming deadlines. Past me thought I could get all the work done during naps...crazy, I know! Here I am, typing with one hand on my second assignment, DD is contact napping, the kitchen is a mess and I need a shower. 😭 I am doing this for her, but it is sooooo hard to juggle everything. I've done most of the graft on this assignment, just doing the references and hoping to submit tomorrow if all goes well. Please give me a boost! Oh and feel free to vote

YABU - what were you thinking? Fool! You got yourself into this pickle, have fun trying to get yourself out of it

YANBU - perfectly doable. You just need to manage your time better.

Not easy, but you'll get through and feel pride in yourself.
I did the same and it was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I always know I can face tough things and survive.
It's ok to feel like you're at your limit and not enjoy large chunks of the difficulties it creates... You are at your limit, and it isn't fun.
But
It is temporary and you'll get there battle scarred but victorious.
Keep your chin up and remind yourself you are doing great regardless of whether the pots aren't done and you wish you could shower. They can wait.
Super star.
Your daughter will be very proud of you.

P.s your yanbu is too harsh.
It should say:
'it's ok, doesn't have to be perfect, you just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other.'

I did that too and the pride you feel when you get there is more than you can imagine.

call in any available help and keep your eye on the long goals.

good luck!

Nah you’ve got this, don’t stress. Regardless of circumstance when deadlines are due it always causes thoughts of what was I thinking/never gonna finish.
Complete, submit and then be proud of yourself for smashing it 💪

They always say get a busy person to do something because they will manage it ! I can empathise as I decided to do a masters while being a full time carer for my DH - just like you I thought I would work during nap times / physio etc. it could work …….. It does ! You just need to take your moments and opportunities when they arise, go with the flow and not panic if you don’t get any work done for a couple of days - you can do this. ( and I understand the pain of the referencing - just when you thought you had finished ! ) and remind yourself that the kitchen being a mess / the toy box is untidy / laundry needs folding etc. aren’t life threatening, they can a wait a little.

Just think about the sense of achievement you will get when the assignment is submitted , a fantastic feeling and time for a little treat (maybe that shower followed by some chocolate 🙂 ) You are doing this for you and your DD, it’s something you can be immensely proud of - you’ve got this - good luck

Sounds like the finish line of this assignment is in sight so don't give up now!
Huge respect to you for going for it

Put your essay into ChatGPT and ask it to sort out the Harvard references for you 🫡

^^ Christ, do not do that!

Keep powering through and think how amazing you'll feel when you are awarded your degree 👏

You've taken on a lot doing a degree while you've got a young baby! But you've got this far so you just have to push on 💪 it doesn't matter if the house is a mess or if you haven't had a shower - as long as you're both fed and comfortable everything else can wait 😊 just think how amazing you will feel when you get your degree!! You are working hard so you can look after yourself and your daughter - you're a bloody superwoman!! It will all be worth it in the end and you will be so glad you did it 👩‍🎓

Wow thank you everyone for the support! I had a lovely afternoon - took DD to the swings and played with autumn leaves (which are so beautiful at the moment). We are both fed, bath time is done, goodness knows how many bedtime stories have been read. Now there are no excuses and thanks to you all I'm feeling super motivated to get this coursework done and dusted!! 👍 P.S. the kitchen is less messy (but in need of a deep clean) and I still need a shower