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Am I being guilty of unconscious bias?

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Normalguy22 · 24/10/2024 12:44

I see this a phase a lot in the media lately.

recently at my work we had a event for black history month. They basically said only black people can work in a certain public facing area on a set day. All white faces were excluded to another area.

They made a big fuss about it around diversity and celebrating black culture etc. Balloons, cake,flags etc etc

Now to me this seems to just reinforces stereotypes and division, surely it we shouldn’t highlight a group people by race, gender etc. I love working with all types of cultures and genders and believe we should all just stop talking about “differences” and get along.

Am I being guilty of unconscious bias or worse racism by seeing these events and racist and causing division?

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Foxblue · 24/10/2024 14:53

Not talking about these things openly is how we ended up here, in a world where we need to talk about these things openly in order to initiate change. When people talk about 'divisive' - we are already divided, and you don't repair a relationship by pretending problems don't exist, or past problems never happened. You have to discuss and work through them. And that's where we are at as a society, the 'working through' stage.

GretchenWienersHair · 24/10/2024 15:16

Normalguy22 · 24/10/2024 14:47

I guess this comment is closest to my view.

Sorry I was a bit vague with my op as trying not to identify the company involved as it’s a major UK company.

again without being specific let’s say it was like a restaurant removing all their white staff from a branch and shipping in black people for a day,(from other branches) (It wasn’t this but quite close). What made it worse (imo) was the people that were removed still got paid for the inconvenience/loss or work for the day.
(So in my warped mind(!) I saw this as white folk being paid to enjoy a day off and black people put front and centre to promote the companies diversity agenda). That in my mind was just weird md borderline racist But then I’m not a HR person. 🤷🏻‍♂️

(So in my warped mind(!) I saw this as white folk being paid to enjoy a day off and black people put front and centre to promote the companies diversity agenda). That in my mind was just weird md borderline racist

I wouldn’t say it’s warped at all. I would be straight to HR if all the white people were being given a more relaxed day while I was put on show for the company’s (clearly non-existen) diversity initiative.

Naunet · 24/10/2024 15:17

Babbahabba · 24/10/2024 14:26

Is it not designed to demonstrate how it feels to excluded etc? Make a point about apartheid, slavery etc?

Very few black people in this country are descended from slaves, we’re not America, but even if they were, do women not already know based on their own history? Do disabled people not know what it’s like? What about gays and lesbians or other racial minorities living here? It’s just nonsense.

I find it fascinating which minorities get these special events whilst others are ignored, makes it all feel like a very empty gesture. I’m fully onboard with true equality, but this isn’t it in my opinion.

GretchenWienersHair · 24/10/2024 15:26

Naunet · 24/10/2024 15:17

Very few black people in this country are descended from slaves, we’re not America, but even if they were, do women not already know based on their own history? Do disabled people not know what it’s like? What about gays and lesbians or other racial minorities living here? It’s just nonsense.

I find it fascinating which minorities get these special events whilst others are ignored, makes it all feel like a very empty gesture. I’m fully onboard with true equality, but this isn’t it in my opinion.

I both agree and disagree with you here. I wouldn’t say “very few” - there is a large Caribbean population here and it’s very much part of our history. However it’s equally a part of British history and therefore should be covered as such outside of any black “celebrations”. Like you say, not something we need to be reminded about constantly as if that’s the only thing we’re known for. When our trauma is the only thing discussed or given attention to during BHM, it’s insulting.

Errors · 25/10/2024 08:22

I don’t like the term unconscious bias. It’s a way of calling people racist who aren’t racist.

redskydarknight · 25/10/2024 08:48

Errors · 25/10/2024 08:22

I don’t like the term unconscious bias. It’s a way of calling people racist who aren’t racist.

It's a way of making people who are behaving in a different way due to someone's ethnicity or race think about what they are doing.

From the point of view of the person being treated differently it doesn't matter whether it was due to racism or unconscious bias.

Sausagenbacon · 25/10/2024 08:58

Bias, unconscious or otherwise, is everywhere, and relates to everyone.
Try going somewhere with a person who's younger or more attractive than you and you'll see it. Is it worse to be biased on racial grounds? I don't think so.s

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StMarieforme · 25/10/2024 09:11

Normalguy22 · 24/10/2024 13:04

Oh maybe I misunderstood, I thought that as I thought this was divisive that I wasn’t understanding the “other side” of the argument and hence was being unconsciously bias? So confusing all this stuff!

"All this stuff".

You're talking about people's lived experiences.

I think you need to examine your whole approach tbh.

AlisonDonut · 25/10/2024 09:15

OP look at what happened when Evergreen College told all the white people to stay home, and one white man said 'no, this is my work place and I go to work on days I work so I'm coming to work'. Absolutely batshittery. Utter crazy woke nuttery. Benjamin Boyce documented the whole thing.

Lookslikemeemaw · 25/10/2024 09:17

I don’t think you understand ‘unconscious bias’ at all…
equality doesn’t exist, and until it does, events like this are needed
Personally, as someone who is white, I don’t think that it’s up to me to say what is and isn’t racist.

Sausagenbacon · 25/10/2024 09:18

The moral being, never posit a different point of view to people who can't handle it. it's just unkind, as the only response they can make is that anyone who disagrees with them is an idiot.

StMarieforme · 25/10/2024 09:18

UnderOverUp · 24/10/2024 13:59

As has been said, that’s not unconscious bias.

I think what you’re guilty of is naivety. The whole “I don’t see colour” thing has been shown over and over to be unhelpful at best.

Have you seen this image before? To me “why can’t we just get along” is giving everyone one box so they’re “equal”.

I love this visual representation/ use it a lot! 😊

sunights · 25/10/2024 09:18

OP try thinking about as a way of balancing out that there are celebrations of Irish people and culture on St Patrick's Day, English on St George's day etc...

Or compare it to how Pride events are important for visibility and wider social acceptance of LGBQTIA+ culture 🏳️‍🌈

And allow the celebrations and have fun!

burnoutbabe · 25/10/2024 09:30

Hencewy · 24/10/2024 14:21

I think it’s utterly bizarre of the company, this is a prime example of tokenistic actions if they make no other efforts to create diversity in their workplace/ recruiting practises.

I have seen this sort of thing in say the airline industry whereby they highlight that a particular flight is totally staffed by black people (or women)

But these are all people doing those jobs who are rotated into one flight (by accident or design) who all do those jobs. Not just putting someone into the pilots chair for the day.

I'd not really spot it as a thing in my local bank unless it was specifically pointed out.

Channel 4 did a day of black faces recently-presenters and actors in shows (I think holly oaks etc did special episodes) and all the adverts. But again you probably wouldn't have actually spotted anything different unless you read some pr in advance (or wondered why Phil and Kirsty had changed)

AnonyLonnymouse · 25/10/2024 09:31

I do support and agree with Black History Month. It is educational and surely that is always a good thing?

Racism is still a huge problem and I have witnessed firsthand hostile comments and slights being made to an older woman of colour (in my own family). I look quite different so people tend to assume that we aren’t ‘together’ - then they are completely astonished when I call them out.

I also think that diversity of the photos used in marketing materials etc can make a positive difference, but it doesn’t ring true if the rest of the organisation doesn’t actually reflect that diversity. See the National Trust brochure for a prime example of this!

BalletCat · 25/10/2024 09:31

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Grow up.

mamajong · 25/10/2024 09:38

SallyWD · 24/10/2024 12:51

You're talking about what you want OP, not what black people want. As a white woman I can't speak for black people, but the ones I do know, think black history month is important. They recently celebrated it at my children's school and the black children spoke quite passionately about how it was an important time to celebrate black history and achievements. One girl said "It's the only time we feel like black people are important". Black people still feel they are judged on their colour every day. I don't think it's our place as white people to say that skin colour is irrelevant.

This!

Victoriancat · 25/10/2024 09:39

Hi I'm mixed race. The whole keep every black face in one section for the day smacks of company wanting photo opportunities tbh!

The difference a lot of white people can't understand is there's so much pain in history that makes it hard to move past to all be hand in hand singing songs round a campfire, people will always be different.

Feetroot · 25/10/2024 09:41

What they did is probably illegal. You are not allowed to segregate people by race!

Black faces being a minority is inevitable because black people are 3.7% of the UK population. It's reality, not racism.

Errors · 25/10/2024 09:41

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Also, I am mixed race myself. Does that now allow me to hold my opinion of ‘unconscious bias’ being a load of crap?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 25/10/2024 09:45

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 24/10/2024 13:01

@Normalguy22

Unconscious bias is when we make judgments or decisions on the basis of our prior experience, our own personal deep-seated thought patterns, assumptions or interpretations, and we are not aware that we are doing it.

So not what you are looking for in this context

(Definition by Royal Society)

Isn’t this what the widely used term “lived experience” is?

Feetroot · 25/10/2024 09:47

Lookslikemeemaw · 25/10/2024 09:17

I don’t think you understand ‘unconscious bias’ at all…
equality doesn’t exist, and until it does, events like this are needed
Personally, as someone who is white, I don’t think that it’s up to me to say what is and isn’t racist.

Funny that people never trot out this line when Jewish people say something is anti-Semitic.

I don’t agree with it anyway. If it’s just not arguing with a black person who feels something is racist maybe that’s one thing. If it’s ‘all company policy has to cater to employees’ subjective opinions of what is racist’, to me that’s irrational and no different from ‘a woman is anyone who says they are a woman’.