I want to take you shopping Mum..

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We hear only negative things about parenting (and most subjects) a lot of the time. People will understandably seek advice for the moments where things are going wrong.
I wanted to start a thread to ask what your positive stories are regarding your kids?

I'll go first.
I have young sons and was in a shopping centre with them recently. I commented that I used to come here with my dm to go shopping, have coffee and cake. My 7 year old said:

"Mum when I am a grown up I will drive, come pick you up and bring you here and we will eat together and chat. I will buy you a meal out of my own money. "
This melted my heart. Ds is ND, he can tolerate shops, cafes when they're quiet, but isn't a fan, and for him to say this is huge.

What have yours said/done that have completely blown you away?

Such a cute thread

DS started getting £1 a week pocket money when he was in year 1. I took him out to buy a little toy and he saw he had enough for two - didn't think anything of it until I saw he'd told his little sister to pick one out too and had bought one for her as well 🥲

When he was 10, my son said 'After I have taken my kids swimming on Sat mornings, I will pick you up and we will all go for breakfast'. 😍

I am finding it hard to read this without crying. So so lovely.

Smart boy, thinking ahead! 🥰

My 12 year old to narc granny.".you can say what you like about my mum I will not listen to you cos to me she is perfect in every way and i love her. you need to stop being mean to her ,shes the only one you can rely on." The stunned silence was palpable.I love that girl so much.
Theres some amazing kids (and parents) on this thread.x

tell me you don’t have anything further to do with your narc mother and certainly your son doesn’t?

Extremely limited due to a certain sense of duty I have. I will shop for her, pay her bills etc but thats about it! I honestly didnt think her actions had been noted by anyone else let alone a young kid!

your mother or your mil?

i wouldn’t want any one in the vicinity of my children who behaved like this and so disturbed by it were they…. they felt the need to stick up for their mother

My mother sadly. Its ok she has lost so much by being who she is. I have an amazing family and she can never be a part of that and I think for half an hour per week I can put up with it ,she never crosses my mind the rest of the time!!

Teen DD for my birthday booked cinema tickets for us and then produced a tenner from her purse for me to treat myself to refreshments.

She is autistic and struggles with shops and gift giving but knows that I love spending time with her and there was a film we both wanted to see. It was lovely the organisation being on the other foot - and £10 was exactly enough for a drink and popcorn each.

My ds said to me once 'mum I can't wait to come and bring my kids back here for a sleepover' ah that's nice it'll be great! I'll make popcorn for the kids we can play together etc' says I

he says 'what about me mum im
coming too!!!'

I was sat watching tv the other day and ds (10) came and kissed me on the cheek and cuddled me. I realised it's a while since I've had kisses with a purpose (bedtime etc...) it was just out of no where and because he wanted to.
Melted me heart.

My

I say this in every positive things about children thread but my 15 year old cooks dinner for us every night. He started when he was 12 and he loves it! He’ll sometimes do the dishwasher if there’s a break while he’s cooking even though the deal is he cooks, I clean up.

If he comes shopping with me, he will always push the trolley or carry the basket without even thinking about it and carries the shopping in. The other night, one of his friends at cadets was struggling with her bike and a bag of uniform so he pushed her bike out and carried the bag of uniform for her. It was lovely to see him being such a gentleman to his friends as well as me.

He’s also already planning what to get me and DH for Christmas using some of his wages from his Saturday job and he’s planning to donate some to charity before Christmas too.

Recently I was moaning as DH was assaulted on New Year’s Eve and due to police non-action, the case has only just gone to the CPS. I was moaning that they could deal with rioters quickly but not DH’s case. DS said, “but the riots needed to be stopped quickly to keep everyone safe, I’d rather Dad’s case took longer if it protects more people”, I mean, I can’t argue with that!

Amazing stories! 😀

I also found out recently that my autistic teen keeps a Gifts Log on her phone for family and friends because she struggles so much with knowing what to buy but also wants to buy them something so has got quite stressed about it before, so anytime anyone mentions liking something or wished they had something she notes it down ready for birthdays / Christmases / just because. Which I thought was a great idea - she is nothing if not logical and if there is a problem she'll work out a solution.

I was talking to my kids about a children's charity that I donated to in the developing world and my son got so upset about it that he ran to get his wallet and asked me to send them all his money.

I was WFH yesterday and dc24 came in around lunch time and handed me a McDonalds.

Dc19 just before he went back to uni, sorted out the mess in my hallway of cardboard that needed to be broken down for recycling without being asked.

I love my dc 🥰