Am I stupid quitting my “corporate career” with no back up?

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Planning on handing my notice in tomorrow as I’m generally just fed up of my role and I think people are starting to notice. I’m doing the same thing day in and day out it’s exhausting and boring and high caseload.I am NHS so my notice period is 3 months but I don’t think I can last that long.

I have about 4 months of savings so I will be ok for a little while. I’m happy to get a little part time job to keep us ticking over.

am I being silly? I have 3 kids mortgage bills to pay for. We will be really tight on our finances but at least I will be happy again.

Yes you are being stupid.

get another Job offer first

I think you need some kind of plan, yes.

I get it
are You the sole earner?

Yes! Never leave a job without another one lined up.

I'm sorry you're feeling so exhausted, but seriously - find something else before you resign.

Have you started looking for other work yet?

YANBU to want to leave your job but I do think you need to wait it out until your notice is over, for their sake as well as your family's.

Perhaps talk to your boss about an impending burnout and ask for reduced duties whilst on notice.

Thing is it’s starting to make me very unwell. Headaches and panicky im in a very isolated role too. I’m going to offer 2 months and not come back after Christmas.

am I being silly? I have 3 kids mortgage bills to pay for. We will be really tight on our finances but at least I will be happy again.

How are you going to be happy again when you're potentially plunging your family into financial instability?

When recruiting I’m always put off by candidates who leave their jobs before finding a new one. It makes me concerned that they would bail at the drop of a hat.

Yes, you’re not being smart. Get another job then leave. If it’s NHS it will take forever for them to performance manage you out anyway if you’ve lost your way.
do not put your children at risk. 4/12 money is nothing. Xmas is coming. Just wait it out till you’ve got a job. 3/12 will fly by once you know you’ve another job to go to. It won’t feel so endless. Is there people around you that you like. Fill your day as much as you can with them here and there.

Yeah Christmas is on the way.

try to stay calm.

can you request part time to help you look for a new job ?

Don’t do it. Apply for other jobs first.

Stress from work is one thing; stress because you can’t find work or pay your mortgage and don’t qualify for government support because you quit is another level entirely.

I would defer the decision first least 2 weeks.

Search the jobs market and speak to recruiters. See what's possible before you hand. Preferably do a few interviews first.

With 3 kids and a mortgage, I would do out sick (not really suggesting it) before I would quit a good job without a concrete plan.

A couple of options - first, could you ask for a sabbatical? (No idea if that's possible in your field). Alternatively, if you really are suffering/exhausted, why not ask your GP to sign you off for a couple of weeks? Sounds like you could do with a rest - and that will also give you a bit of perspective.

Speaking as someone that got fed up and handed their notice in at the start of the year… what’s your plan? I knew we could just about cope financially on my husbands salary and as it happens they’ve offered me part time.
I had thoroughly interrogated our finances and drawn up a realistic budget.
Whats the end goal- write these down too.

Do you have a partner/husband/wife? If so, what do they think? Would they be happy for you to leave with no job to go to?

With 3 kids, you can take up to 3 months leave with just 3 weeks notice if you’ve in in role over a year. Why not do that to get some breathing space and have a think?

I am feeling the same OP so do sympathise but don’t assume it’s easy to get a “little part time job” that is suitable. I am searching daily and there is nothing like the amount of PT there is full time.
Can you get signed off for a week or so if starting to feel unwell from stress?
It might help to just stop and see what’s out there job wise and rest.

This might be a good option if it stacks up and work agrees?

Go off sick and find something else

You'd be mad to just quit

How will you pay your portion of the mortgage and bills on a little part time job, or are you choosing to put that pressure on someone else?

People who leave without a job can find it harder to find work, as it looks like they’ve jumped before being pushed.

I quit a super well paid job this year OP without something lined up. I'm caring for my v unwell mum and taking a break from the world of work while applying for jobs. It's tough out there, I'm securing few interviews! I've been offered one role that I declined as money was a joke.

I can do it as no kids, low outgoings and DP is a high earner. From the position you're considering putting yourself in I would council sitting tight and just pouring your energy into job hunting.

How would you be happy when you can't support your family? If work is making you unwell take sick leave. Have you been applying for other jobs?

I’m HR I so understand all the ins and outs but it’s embarrassing for me my first year of my career and I’m going off sick. We have a lot of our team that are currently off sick with stress too.

I’d tell the truth - you’re exhausted, on the verge of quitting and need a week off to think.
Then use that week to really isolate what is upsetting you and ideally what changes would support you.
Then meet you manager, present and discus.
You might find they support charges!
And if they don’t you can quit anyway knowing you tried to resolve it first. Better than just making an emotional decision / running away from your problems - they’ll just catch you up again in the future I’m afraid.