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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Taking my DC on holiday

9 replies

nomoreschool · 23/10/2024 12:14

Will try to keep this brief but also don't want to drip feed.

Between me and my DP we have 6 DC's, I have DD15 and DS13 and he has 4 DC's between 17 and 8, we both have shared access of our children although on a slightly different pattern. We have lived all together for just over 3 years and we have been together for 7 years. There are no issues with any of the children and my DC are generally close to their step siblings.

We have always had holidays with all the kids together abroad once a year, a short UK break once a year and then we do a separate holiday with 3 of them (this is open to all and we offer every year to take all of them but only 3 of them are interested).

Early next year my DP is going away for 6 nights with friends, his DC will be staying with their mum for this time so it will be me and my 2 DC at home.

While he is away I thought it would be nice to go away with my two DC for a few nights while it is just the 3 of us. I've had a brief look at a few options like Spain, a city break and Disneyland Paris, all very similar prices so was considering DLP.

Now my issue is that I feel guilty for considering taking my DC to DLP or anywhere considered to be exciting and not including my other step DC and I was just after some outside perspective on this. We always try to treat all the kids fairly and make sure they are all included in everything we do as a family.

I do currently get time on my own with my DC and I always make an effort to spend one on one time with them but as its just me and my DC when my DP is away I thought it would be nice to take advantage of it being just us 3 and do something nice with them.

AIBU to book a little trip to DLP for just the 3 of us?

FWIW and not sure if this is just me trying to justify things but my DC have never been away with their Dad, the only holidays they have are with us. My DP's DC do go away with their mum once or twice a year in addition to the holidays we take them on.

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Itsmahoneybaloney · 23/10/2024 12:22

How do you both afford all this and have a big enough house 😀😀 I barely cope with 2 kids. I need some tips - genuinely not being sarcastic.

I dont have a blended family so I'm really not sure how to proceed what does your DP think? I think I'd do it but if the step kids do want to go then plan to go again with all of you as your family holiday in 2026 maybe?

MeMyCatsAndI · 23/10/2024 12:29

Go without them, their mum can take them on a holiday without you & your kids so why can't you take your own children on a holiday without them?

AnellaA · 23/10/2024 12:34

In theory it’s fine but of all places, DLP is a destination so many kids would like to go to it might create some unique jealousy.

Catza · 23/10/2024 13:21

Perfectly fine to go on holiday but picking DLP as a destination is a contentious option and I would go on a city break instead.

Amyknows · 23/10/2024 13:43

Go and make memories with your own kids. You don't have to do everything equally all the time. I'm sure your kids would love a really special holiday with you.

Mandylovescandy · 23/10/2024 13:50

I think it is fine to take them on holiday and to do what you want to do and they would enjoy. And I don't think DLP is necessarily something every kid would love and be jealous of - I would hate it and my DC wouldn't be at all bothered. If his DC do want to go maybe they can have a trip all together another time

Jessie1259 · 23/10/2024 14:16

Their mum takes them on holiday so it's not unreasonable for you to take yours away. Have a great time!

Dollshousedolly · 23/10/2024 14:20

It’s lovely of you to be considering your DP’s children but go on holiday with your own children and go to DLP if that’s what you want to do. Feel no guilt, your DP’s children go away with their Mum, so this is no different. Why shouldn’t you have a break with your own children when you have the opportunity.

ZeroFucksGivenToday · 23/10/2024 14:25

Definitelh go on holiday. As another poster said, they can go on holiday with their mum without your kids. If you're after a theme park, go to Phantasialand rather than DLP. (My 11yo DD has grown out of DLP already and the rides aren't quite big enough).

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