Writing a note to nursery friend’s parents.

[Sal80]

My LO (nearly 3) goes to day nursery. LO has a ‘best friend’ who is talked about constantly. I have no way of getting in touch with the best friends parents. Would it be weird if I wrote a little note to best friends parents asking if they’d like to meet up for a play date? LO will be going to a school nursery soon & will probably lose contact. Just for context I have no friends with a child a similar age, so my LO doesn’t have play dates other then groups we attend.

I think that's a lovley idea!

Not sure how to update but I’d give the nursery staff the note and ask if they can pass on to the parents.

It sounds perfectly reasonable to me, @Sal80.

Great idea but don't you ever see them at pick up or drop off?

That's what I did. 11 years later they are still friends and I'm firm friends with their mum.

I did this a couple of times when mine were little - via nursery and school.

Its perfectly reasonable!

No we don’t, my LO gets dropped off by her dad at around 8-8:30 and I pick up at 4pm. The nursery is open from 7:30am until 6pm. I’m not sure what time best friend is dropped off/ picked up

Parents do this all the time at my nursery.

Go for it.

Agree, this is very normal for nursery.

Yes I've received a note like this, children love seeing each other out of school and it's lovely to see them play.

Very normal, and nice!

Though don’t be offended if they don’t reply. Some parents are weird. I approached the mum of a little boy mine was friends with and got the weirdest look when I suggested meeting at the playground! Her loss 😄

Do it. I’ve heard of this sort of thing before. I’m sure nursery staff will be happy to pass a note on.

Do it! Our nursery used to put a note in Tapestry for the kid's parents if we asked.

Good idea. I hope it works out well :)

I did this for my son, and 9 years later they are still best friends and I am great friends with his mum

I did this 25 years ago. I’m still really good friends with the parents (and child) and the “children” are still very close.

go for it.

Totally fine imo. It’s also a non invasive way to ask whereby if the other parent doesn’t want to for whatever reason it’s not awkward. Totally different context but I felt the same when a workman once came into my office in my days as a receptionist and dropped a note on my desk just before he left with his number in it. As a chronic people pleaser, I had the choice to text him or not rather than being put on the spot and forced to say yes or no infront of him 😂

I did that and now really good friends with the mum! If you don't see them at pick up/drop offs then I think a note is fine

Don't leave us hanging!
What happened? :D

I did that and received a message informing me that the child was never ever free, ever, no weekends, no mornings afternoons or evenings, and therefore they would never be able to do a playdate, which I found a little bemusing! It was 15 years ago though, I can't even remember the kids name now.

Adding my voice to the chorus of ‘do it’s -

At our children’s first nursery their key workers actually identified friendships that were forming and then suggested we write notes to pass on - as they weren’t allowed to hand out contact info but were allowed to pass notes and invites. Definitely a totally lovely / normal thing to do!

I did this, but went further. I wrote that the kids seemed to get on great so a play date would be good fun, but also that they're working hours seemed similar to me and therefore they could be in the same work / mum guilt as me, and did they want a coffee or wine 'date'.

6 years on, we've been on holiday together, the kids are intertwined in each other's lives... they're basically like the 2nd family I never knew I needed in my life.

Go for it!