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To think about a skill swap?

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andhereweare · 21/10/2024 22:16

New here, is this the right thread?

I need help with tidying, folding laundry and organising. Can't seem to keep on top of it. Would like help from someone nice and sensible who is local, who loves organising and tidying but hates cooking which I would offer in exchange. AIBU to think such a skill swap is possible?

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PassingStranger · 21/10/2024 22:33

Good idea .

SkaneTos · 21/10/2024 22:33

I have never heard about something called a skill swap before. Interesting.

SkaneTos · 21/10/2024 22:37

Interesting idea, for sure.
I'm not really sure how it would work out? Would you switch houses with this other person and just do their cooking, while that person does your laundry?

44PumpLane · 21/10/2024 22:37

It's a good idea of you can find someone- before my wedding we did a skills swap with an ex colleague. He gave me personal training sessions and in return my (now) husband boarded and plastered a wall for him to create a studio in his garage!

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 21/10/2024 22:42

I've done a swap for an afternoon before - someone helped me for half a day with heavy garden work, I spent half a day tutoring their teen for a GCSE.

I'e also done swaps for stuff - ne day helping a friend declutter her spare room in return for a bicycle for DS2 that her DS had outgrown, that sort of thing.

ByMerryKoala · 21/10/2024 22:44

Omg, done. All day long. I love a bit of laundry and can't be arsed with cooking - will you do fussy kids and one with coeliacs - I'll throw in ironing?

andhereweare · 21/10/2024 22:50

44PumpLane · 21/10/2024 22:37

It's a good idea of you can find someone- before my wedding we did a skills swap with an ex colleague. He gave me personal training sessions and in return my (now) husband boarded and plastered a wall for him to create a studio in his garage!

Exactly, this is precisely the sort of thing I'm thinking!

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andhereweare · 21/10/2024 22:55

SkaneTos · 21/10/2024 22:37

Interesting idea, for sure.
I'm not really sure how it would work out? Would you switch houses with this other person and just do their cooking, while that person does your laundry?

Was thinking more that we'd agree a time say a couple of hours and then they'd come round and tidy and I'd have made them something to take home when they're done - a nice hearty stew or a green curry or sheps pie which I'd be making for my family anyway. So in the end, I'd have a tidy home and they'd have a meal they didn't have to cook!

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andhereweare · 21/10/2024 22:58

ByMerryKoala · 21/10/2024 22:44

Omg, done. All day long. I love a bit of laundry and can't be arsed with cooking - will you do fussy kids and one with coeliacs - I'll throw in ironing?

No actual way, coeliac household here - would be a no brainer! You're not in SW London by any chance are you 😅😅😅

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andhereweare · 21/10/2024 23:02

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 21/10/2024 22:42

I've done a swap for an afternoon before - someone helped me for half a day with heavy garden work, I spent half a day tutoring their teen for a GCSE.

I'e also done swaps for stuff - ne day helping a friend declutter her spare room in return for a bicycle for DS2 that her DS had outgrown, that sort of thing.

Yes exactly - this sort of thing, thank you. Hoped it wasn't a completely ridiculous idea. Now to figure out how...

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ByMerryKoala · 22/10/2024 08:01

andhereweare · 21/10/2024 22:58

No actual way, coeliac household here - would be a no brainer! You're not in SW London by any chance are you 😅😅😅

Ah, no - scuppered at the last hurdle! I'm eons away. Back to the cooking drudge for me.

Elleherd · 22/10/2024 10:17

It's a way of life for many.. There are hundreds of thousands of us.
Having the right attitude about peoples needs and differences, being community minded, and being reasonably easy going is often your biggest asset, though niche, or expensive to purchase skills never hurt..

The trick can be to get both parties to write down what the end goal for each should look like, what costs will/may occur, and who pays them. (this is too formal for some though)

Pitfalls are: different skills being valued very differently. (I don't trade with people who use this system, even though I have 'valuable' skills to offer. I prefer people interested in equal communities, we tend to have better relationships and fewer problems with each other.)
An hour of time is a better system, than skills 'values.' People committed to exchange systems generally automatically value an hour of one thing to an hour of another, regardless of skill levels involved.
However, two hours of ironing weekly for an hour of a KC barrister looking over your ongoing case weekly, may be a very acceptable swap. Horses for courses,

If you're financially comfortable, and especially if children around, offering a free (volunteers - £40ish) enhanced DBS check, can be a mutually good part of a longer term swap deal.

Other common pitfalls are: people taking each other for granted, children/ partners/ dogs not in full agreement, all the usual warnings when it comes to adverts /offers (MLMs, Life coaches, weirdo's etc) and previously very occasionally HMRC issues. (again valuing swaps on one hour of time rather than skill 'values' keeps this at bay too)

For some (especially younger/unemployed/ migrant) folk, being able to use the swap 'evidence' as CV building, or take photos is important, so remember to offer/negotiate that and any conditions. (ie pics of beautifully crisp ironing no probs, but no logo'ed school uniform, and blurred backgrounds required please)

The best way to do it is (at least initially) often through a group as reputations matter and it helps with resolving any issues.

Lot's of LETS around (Local Exchange Trading Systems) and Timebanks. You'll also find Hackerspaces/Hackspaces, Makerspaces, and Home Educators full of folk who believe in sharing and swapping skills and time, to enrich lives and create communities and opportunities.
Some groups are very open, some regulated, some quite closed needing a referral from a member.

This is an example of very open unregulated one to one system: a www.facebook.com/groups/skillsswaplondon/?locale=en_GB

notatinydancer · 22/10/2024 10:29

@andhereweare do you have Nextdoor app ?
It's like a local Facebook page you could ask on there.
Good info from pp about swapping time.

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