Public proposals

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Why?

I'm sure in most cases you must have at least discussed it beforehand, no one's making a spectacle like that without reasonable certain knowledge of the outcome.

Why does anyone think other people should be involved in their personal moments?

I'm always happy to hear about an engagement and offer congratulations and well wishes, but find being forced to be part of the proposal makes me shudder.

Some are fake but there are a lot of proposal fails on YouTube that are very cringeworthy!

Mine was public and a spectacle by design. . We had never discussed marriage just future stuff. I had no idea it was coming.

Don’t worry though I don’t care if people like you thought it was cringy… it’s just the kind of guy my DH is and it was sweet.

He also once colluded with a security guard at an office I was traveling to over Valentines Day to deliver a 5 foot stuffed bear as a surprise. I know that is the epitome of cringe 🤷‍♀️

Couldn't care less. It's the couple's business.

They make me cringe. I always wonder what happens if some girl gets proposed to by a guy she isn't thinking of marrying, does she say yes as she doesn't want to embarrass him by refusing.

Just don't do it - nobody else is interested in your proporsal - keep it to yourselves.

I was in Pizza Express many moons ago and the chap at the table next to me was trying to propose, while his poor girlfriend did everything she could to distract him/break the moment. It was so painfully cringy. I don't know what the outcome of that one was!

The worst was when a Chinese Olympic competitor won the gold, and rather than be able to enjoy the moment, her bf proposed to her in front of billions around the world. Actually, I think there have been a couple of such proposals at different Olympic Games - men stealing the limelight from their more successful female partners just at the point of their victory, the culmination of all their hard work, or the ultimate romantic gesture? I know which camp I'm in.

I find the whole notion of a proposal archaic and weird. I don't fathom why it wouldn't be a joint discussion rather than a man "choosing" to deign a woman with his attention. But people can do what they want.

Actually I've just remembered a news story from around the mid to late 80s.

A young couple had seen another couple get engaged in a restaurant and customers had clapped, some sent drinks to the happy couple and the manager came out and gave them free Champagne etc and they decided to have a fake proposal when they ate out until they got rumbled by someone who had seen them previously get engaged before at another restaurant!

Other restaurants in the area were quizzed and they remembered the couple!

I believe it was in the Evening echo for the Southend on Sea area.

YANBU - I often wonder if the person proposed to says yes because of the pressure of everyone watching.