Hello all,
This is just a general vent about things my family have done that piss me off since I’ve had my first baby. I don’t really want solutions just want to rant to people that don’t know me lol! Maybe you could share your stories too!!
So both my fiancé and I have had our first baby she’s 4 months now. We had one rule which we told everyone - no kissing!!! And I can’t believe how bloody hard it is for family not to kiss a baby. Seriously pisses us off! People will say ‘ah she will be picking everything up once she starts nursery’ & ‘you can’t protect her from everything’ - yeah we are fully aware of this, but she’s 4 months old give her a fucking chance. Just because your children managed ok - doesn’t mean ours will - not everyone who decides not to wear a crash helmet when riding a motorcycle will have a serious head injury… what’s your point?
Baby also has a very faint vein on her face and 2 family members have pointed it out in very insensitive ways. One said “what’s that on her face looks like biro” and another said “is that a bruise on her face, did the doctors not say anything about that, I’m nearly 70 and don’t have varicose veins, you don’t want a baby with one”. It’s literally a tiny vein on her face, hardly noticeable.
Most people on my side of the family didn’t breastfeed, I am. So they’ve not had the experience of it and are not aware that it’s not just for feeding, it’s comfort and security etc. One particular family member always comments things like ‘she can’t STILL be feeding’ ‘surely she’s not hungry AGAIN’. Yes I explain the whole thing every time about breastfeeding etc but it never goes in.
I imagined finally having my first baby and that being around my family would be lovely and wholesome but it turns out to be quite frustrating actually! Can anyone relate? I do try and speak my mind when it comes to these matters although I am usually the family member who doesn’t snap back or cause trouble, I’m just quiet and polite and bottle most things up, But Im determined to bring my baby girl up to NOT be a pushover so I am trying to change my ways. Trouble is you end up feeling like you’re pushing family away and tbh I haven’t got much family left!
Again, I’m not after any solutions because I do try and tell everyone what I’m thinking but I swear people don’t listen lol. I just wanted to vent and hopefully hear some of your stories to make me feel comforted…pleasssse!