Neighbour cheating on husband AND being awful. Is revenge ever worth it?

[CornishIrish]

So, this is really a general Sunday night WWYD question.

We have neighbours behind us who own a field. Since they moved in to our little otherwise chilled out village they have been total nightmares. Knocking out our phone lines right before Christmas last year and causing general hassle.

Just in the last few days our lovely but not super attentive, gardener cut into a bit of the boundary hedge. We said we would replace it but they have since sent a super threatening letter saying they will take us to court if we haven’t made good the hedge in 30 days. Poor gardener is so upset. The hedge looks over absolutely nothing. A bit of grass. They’d have to go out of their way to see it.

Anyway, I recently saw her out in the forest near us with a fella who wasn’t her husband and they were being super, er, friendly with each other. Apparently they have been seen on other occasions too.

So, to finally get to the AIBU bit… Have you ever taken petty revenge i.e. grassed up a cheater for your own nefarious reasons and how did it work out and is petty revenge ever justified?

I prefer Karma to revenge. Let it play out.

You never know. She may be the long suffering wife and he may be the nightmare.

This.
Leave it alone.

Agree. However tempting it is don't do it. Let Karma take it's course and don't screw up your own Karma!

It is a shame you are not on speaking terms though. I don't think Karma would have minded if you innocently let it be known you were in the woods at that time....

I would. I love dramz
They sound like a pair of fuckers

I wouldn't, purely on the basis that one should avoid enmeshment with unpleasant people as much as possible

You are being unreasonable, but, I'm here for it 🤣🤣 it is 100% deserved anyway. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes 🤣🤣 take photos if you see her again 🥳✌️

Generally, I'd say no. However, after thinking about my own nightmare couple next door, I mean these arrogant tossers have pushed me to the limit on many occasions. Somehow, I have managed not to go into full rage mode So yeah, do it. I would knock on his door and tell him to his face,' I thought you should know L has been cheating on you.. I caught the dirty slapper in the act!' So I'll guess you'll be leaving then.? Then I'd probably burst out laughing. Yeah, it's mean, but so are they!

Reply to the letter saying the hedge isn't the only bush of theirs that somone else is beating.

I would say mind your own business and fix their hedge. Your neighbours' private lives are nunya. Don't be a busy body.

I’d knock while he was out but she was in and say that hedge doesn’t look too bad I thought the view in the forest was more interesting? Something along those lines?
or a creepy, leave the hedge be or I’ll reveal your secrets note with news paper clippings…

So knocking the phone lines is a hassle but doing the same to their hedge is fine? I dont approve of cheating, but this is peoples lives and you benefitting from a destroyed marriage is pretty low. You don't sound that nice a person or neighbour.

Is the wife destroying her own marriage!
No one else

Just replace their hedge that was damaged. Then stop carping about it. As it's their hedge when it next needs trimming send them a super threatening letter telling them unless they get it trimmed within so many days you will charge them for having to do it. Lol.