To blow up my life?

[InBedBy10]

I've been in the same job for 10yrs. In many ways it's perfect for me. 10 minute drive from DC school. I get on very well with my colleagues. Company car. Hrs that suit me. Moneys OK.
BUT... it can be very stressful and after 10yrs I find myself getting more and more bored. Sometimes it feels like I'm wishing my life away just to get through the week. Most days I'm just going through the motions.

I've been thinking more and more about quitting and going for something new. What's holding me back is losing the company car (although I live in a city with plenty of public transport, so not essential). I would miss the people I work with too. Also what I have in mind is not a sure thing. I'm 80% sure it will work out but if it does, I will be financially better off and happier (hopefully). If it doesn't, then I quit a good job for nothing.

YABU - keep the security and stay where you are.
YANBU - take a chance at something better.

‘Blowing up your life’ is a bit dramatic isn’t it? People get new jobs all the time. Just start scouting the market and take it from there.

I am cautious by nature so I would want to have a plan in place for if the new job doesn't work out. But life is short and if there is a path that would be more fulfilling I would want to give it a try....but only if I had some kind of safety net. And also only if I was sure it wouldn't have an adverse effect on my kids

Yes, you can get a new job, does it necessarily need to blow up your life? What are you worried will happen?

I agree, I think you must be very change averse to consider this blowing your life up. Why don't you start applying for jobs, see what you get offered and take it from there?

I've done it multiple times, I don't believe in lifelong commitment to something that bores me, annoys me or stresses me out. If I'm going to spend a third of my life at my job I at least want it to be engaging.

Changing jobs isn't blowing up your life unless you're the sole breadwinner of your family and quitting a well paid stable job to go and be an umbrella salesperson in the Gobi desert or something!

Is there anything your current work could offer you to help? Ie a different project or new responsibility? If so your first point of call should be talking to a friendly boss. If one exists. This doesn’t necessarily exclude a casual look elsewhere tho.

Unless you’re talking about starting your own business or doing pyramid selling or something, why would applying for a different job blow up your life? Genuinely curious why you chose such a dramatic phrase.

It's just a new job not "blowing up your life". 🙄

Blowing up your life is abandoning the family and running away to.join the circus with your best mate's husband.

😁

Voted YABU, just because of the current situation.

Go for it 👍🏻

Can you request a career break/ sabbatical?

Are you the only earner in your home?

how difficult would it be to get another job like your current one?

Doesn’t particularly sound like blowing-up levels of change. Go for it, live a little! Good luck.

Ok, so blowing up my life may be a bit dramatic lol.

I think the reason I'm struggling with the decision is because I'm not just changing jobs. I can't go into too much detail as its outing. Sorry, really not trying to be annoying. But its not a pyramid scheme or anything like that. I have an option that if it works out will be great but if it doesn't then I'll have to think of plan B. It's a bit of a gamble and as a single mam, it's something I really need to weigh up.

Fair enough. I think in your place I would want to have a plan B but go for my plan A.

Sometimes it feels like I'm wishing my life away just to get through the week. Most days I'm just going through the motions.

This is no way to live. We only get one go.

Can you do both? Until you get an idea whether plan b will work?

Unfortunately not.

This thread has made me realise that I may be over thinking this. Its just a job but as a single mother it's also a large part of my social life. I'm aware how sad that sounds but between work and the kids, I really don't have time or energy for much socialising.
I suppose I'm only realising now how much I rely on my co workers for some adult company. But at the same time, I think its time to move on. Just have take a leap of faith.

I wouldn’t consider leaving a job that was both stressful and boring ‘blowing up your life.’ It’s doing something more fulfilling and interesting so you don’t waste your one life wishing it away. Ten years is enough of a crack at a job! I’ve never done one job that long - it’s the change that keeps me interested.

From one single mum to another - Do it, OP! Just make sure there's a company car through your new job!