To expect a message back

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I've asked a group of friends whether or not they want to go out for food on a particular date and they have just ignored it. Aibu to expect just a "no thanks, I can't on that day sorry." Or "i'll get back to you, I'm not sure yet."
We chat regularly - once a week at least. My post is just hanging there. A friend has posted a photo of a night out she had and has not responded to my message. Aibu? I honestly wouldn't mind a no, I can't but to just ignore it feels crap.

You're not being unreasonable but perhaps you are being unrealistic? People are terribly about responding nowadays. Goodness knows why. I hate it.

Depends on timescale. How long have you been left on read? If we’re talking inside of 48 hrs then yes you’re being unreasonable. If it’s more than 48 hours then no you’re not. In our group chat if one of us sends a message like that, none of us will reply straightaway, I don’t reply until I know definitively one way or the other. If I still don’t know after a couple of days then I’ll probably reply that I’m not sure yet though

A week

A week?

Lol, I would've quoted myself and said something like 'Anyone'?

They're your friends, you should be able to manage that.

Yeah a week is too long, I’d have called them all out for being ignorant fucktards 🤣
Chances are, they saw it, didn’t have an answer to give straight away, then did the classic thing of forgetting the message even exists. If they’re good friends then I’m sure it’s entirely innocent OP

I'm afraid they would just ignore again.

A week - that is rude.
How long have you been friends?

Are they good friends?

No response is a response, as the saying goes.

Different time scales. I just feel recently that I've been getting on their nerves.

Why? What have you been doing that you think gets on their nerves?

I’d silently leave the chat and never speak to them again. They clearly don’t care.

Total overreaction award goes to BabyCloud

They seem to be quite stressed with work. We have quite a bit of help from family and I feel sometimes they get a bit jealous. I feel they are allowed to vent about things going on in their lives but once I say something, it is radio silence because I'm lucky.

I tend to avoid responding to such questions with a no because it feels unnecessary, and it creates more noise when only the yes responses are meaningful.

If the group is a dozen people, say, then do you really need ten no responses when it's the one yes response that you are interested in?

Haha I know.
It’s plain ignorance to ignore OP and it sounds like they are fazing them out anyway.

Some people get really annoyed when they ask a question and get a load of 'sorry I can't help this time' in a group chat. I'm not one of those people, however it might explain the lack of response. Seems more and more that people only answer in the affirmative.

I'd probably quote my original message and say
'I take it that's no then 🤣. Any other dates we could do?'
Then see what happens

I don't like to be the first person to respond, I like to gauge other people's replies first. Maybe nobody wants to be first

Just do a "quoted message - not a good time? Anyone got any other dates?"

This.

Don't read into it what might not be there. Maybe you're the one that is best at responding to people when they vent which prompts others to join but when they're isn't a you to do it they aren't great?

OP don’t take this the wrong way, but you sound like a naturally, very paranoid type. I get it, but it’s not conducive to good friendships. They simply may have forgotten to reply. I would do as others suggested (not me personally, I’d call them all out on it 🤣 but that’s what my friends expect of me) I think quoting your own message with one of the above replies is a good idea