Hate weekends

[Londonideas]

Single no kids. Feel so lonely at the weekends. All my friends are in relationships and most have kids. I just don't know what to do with myself at the weekends. Feel so sad tonight on yet another lonely Saturday night.

Maybe a friend would meet up for a coffee? Just because they are in relationships or have children they may fancy an hour away.

Then you’re your own worst enemy! Invest in yourself before you expect others to invest in you. It’s your life so get busy figuring out what you enjoy.

My colleague went through this feeling and then joined a walking group. They would meet in different places every weekend. She would walk and chat all day and be happy collapsing in front of the TV. Over time she made friends and even went on walking holidays. You'd need to live somewhere accessible and have a car though.

I'm sorry you feel like this OP, must be hard.

i have a couple of single & child free friends & I’m more than happy to do stuff with them, please ask them!

Look at your local church or W.i, always lots going on or look for FB groups, ones just been set up near me called ‘sips & successes’ & it’s open to all women, they meet for drinks etc & it looks great!

Reading this you've just described me..... I work Friday and Saturday evenings in a restaurant now for extra cash, plus I'm not stuck at home alone. By time I get home I collapse into bed haha

Can you join in some family time with friends or family? When my dc were little I welcomed another adult in the house or accompanying us to sporting events. Or how about someone older? An older neighbor older
couple might enjoy a glass of wine in a bar or pub…getting out for a bit and some conversation and then home. Often “busy” adults can welcome the company of someone else in their daily routine rather than planning a more formal night out.

Friends, family or neighbours?

gardening; Gym; Library; Shopping; Historic sites; cafe; volunteering; a sport; swimming; museums

I found it really beneficial for my mental health to volunteer at animal charities, and I joined borrow my doggy. I love to walk other people's dogs. It gets me out and about without the commitment and expense of owning my own dog

Try going for a weekend away. Pick somewhere with lots to do and enjoy yourself.

Visit a museum, do some shopping, eat out at somewhere you wouldn't normally eg if you usually eat Indian food go to a Greek or Lebanese restaurant.

Take photos, wander in a park etc.

Or look into adventure weekends, you never know a 1 day climbing day could lead to a new hobby.

https://www.adventurebritain.com/category/activity-weekend-packages/

Where in the country are you OP?

My weekends revolve around my kids’ social and sporting events (that and my husband’s many DIY projects). Much as I love my family, sometimes I miss having the luxury of choice as to how I spend my time.

I’ve been where you are, and I know how much the loneliness can hurt. I’m sorry. But the positive here is that your leisure time can be entirely dictated by your wishes. You get to choose! PPS here have given loads of great ideas. Get out there and try something! If it’s not for you, just move onto the next thing. Enjoy your freedom.

Join some groups. I am in a walking group and my saturday’s now consist of good country walks and country pubs. Its a fab group

Defo hobby. Best thing I ever did was find a hobby I loved. Made my time without DC (separated from their Dad) so much better.

id try the following;

• hobby, leading from the running one, bring your own boots is a walking group (think off shoot to ramblers for younger people) or you might have local. Very low cost.
• have a look what groups are in your area, dance, art or something else you’d like to try.
• pick something nice for yourself each weekend. Art gallery, coffee out, a monthly day trip.
• cook a new or favourite recipe.
• read (literally my favourite thing!) you can even visit the library for something to do.
• volunteer!
• Get organised and make plans with friends. I enjoy going out without my kids! I have a friend I meet for an early morning walk and friends where I meet for early tea to get out of bedtime! When I was in a relationship my ex worked and played footy on sat, often went for nights out so I would have been grateful for the company.
• Invite a friend for tea / visit a friend for tea.

One of the best things I ever did fir myself was take up a musical instrument. It's now my main social life. I can't say that I absolutely love it but I love what comes with it. Most weeks l have three meet ups which all stem from it. I also tried running but I'm more of a solo runner. Might just take a few different things to hit on one.

Meet ups for social stuff for singles