How to get him to pay his share... or sell the house?

[cocktailhournow]

I'm at my wit's end with my fiancé. He doesn't earn enough to pay his half of the bills and mortgage, because he basically does part time hours through choice or volunteering to give up shifts. He could work more but doesn't.

Each month, I'm paying my half, then have to top up at least another quarter because he doesn't have the money to cover it.

How do I get him to sort himself out and pay his way? We didn't agree to me paying 3/4 of the total bills and I've had to take money from my savings a few times to cover his shortfall.

If he doesn't or can't, I think I'm done subsidising him. He will be very very against selling the house because he won't be able to get another mortgage on his wages. How do I make that happen if he's reluctant?

Thanks everyone.

He used to work closer to full time hours when we first got together so the money wasn't an issue when we got the house.

To be honest, I don't even know that there is a way back from feeling like this, like I'm his mum bailing him out or something. It's probably made worse by the fact that my work is really full-on and stressful right now, so I get home after 12 hours at work and he's been on his arse all day.

I've told him that we need to go through finances later tonight.

@cocktailhournow Good. Make it quite clear you are not putting up with his workshy lazy twattery a moment longer.

If you stay with him and marry him what's to stop him reducing his work in future so you're back to paying for him to live?

He'd also be entitled to 50% of the marital assets then.

I think he's shown his true colours and wouldn't trust him in future financially

Better to break free now while it's easier OP. He's no bloody good.