Husband not understanding my needs during pregnancy

[Stephanieava]

Currently 32 weeks pregnant with my 2nd & suffering horrifically with my mental health. Was referred to the MH midwifery team at 20 weeks but I haven’t heard a peep, I feel so incredibly alone & on the verge of I don’t know what. The pregnancy has been horrible physically too, suffering HG & PGP

This weekend I’ve just asked my Husband to just ‘be’ with me. Curl up on the sofa & watch rubbish TV so I can try to switch my brain off, it’s so loud

He’s acting all huffy & puffy, saying there is SO much to do in the house. I know there is, but I mentally just can’t take it right now & need to just ‘be’ if that makes sense

Last night was another prime example, after we put our Son down he wanted to go on his game for an hour. I asked if we could just be together & he got huffy

I’m already feeling so lonely & don’t want to fight for him to spend time with me. It’s the support I need right now

He just doesn’t get it

So now I’m upstairs on my own whilst he’s banging about downstairs doing god knows what

Ho probably does get it but it doesn't mean that he will (or should) automatically want to do what you ask him to do. It's a difficult situation when you are going through something unpleasant/traumatic/painful etc. and it becomes easy to forget that everyone else in your household is going through the very same thing alongside you.
My partner has a chronic condition and while I appreciate that he can't do many things and be many things to me he used to do and be, everytime I hear "you just don't get it" makes me.. frustrated. I do very much get it but my feelings and needs also matter. I should not be just expected to become his selfless career. So we are slowly learning to compromise and not get upset with each other when our needs clash. Would you really only be happy with him spending the whole weekend cuddling on a sofa or could you have let him do house stuff and earmark a couple of hours in the evening? Why was it the end of the world last night for him to take an hour to himself and then spend time with you after that? Or the other way around, even

Reported.

Pervert. Go get your kicks elsewhere.